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StevieM

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16. I don't think we should look at adoption as a wonderful solution to the problem.

Thu Aug 6, 2015, 03:09 PM

Aug 2015

A lot of adopted babies come from mother's who were coerced. And many more come from women who were in dire circumstances and forced to accept a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I understand that there will always need to be some adoptions, even if we could reform the system. But let's not forget that it begins with a tragedy, the separation of a child from its blood relatives. And it usually leaves a suffering birth mother in its wake, one who will grieve for that child for the remainder of her life.

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Climate change: Causing people to reconsider having children? [View all] Arugula Latte Aug 2015 OP

Things have been looking grim for quite a while. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2015 #1

I guess if it their decision that is fine yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #2

There is the question of is it fair to the child to bring it into a melting world ... ? Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #4

Very tough to answer for sure yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #7

do foxface666 Aug 2015 #28

Yes and it has forever yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #36

Out of curiosity, did your sister and BIL use at home methods to affect the gender of their baby? StevieM Aug 2015 #6

I don't think so yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #9

Could you describe some of those? Eating pork? Using Dove soap? snooper2 Aug 2015 #14

I hope that you are genuinely curious and not just making fun of me. StevieM Aug 2015 #17

Okay, I never knew something like that existed (even the thought of it), but- Internets LOL snooper2 Aug 2015 #18

Those recommendations are not woo, TexasMommaWithAHat Aug 2015 #22

This is anecdotal evidence, but the timing thing did seem to "work" for us. Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #40

Except that's how everyone thinks... marions ghost Aug 2015 #35

Yes. My son will not have a child. Duppers Aug 2015 #3

It is tough. Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #5

I don't think we should look at adoption as a wonderful solution to the problem. StevieM Aug 2015 #16

There will be homes needed, regardless -- good point villager Aug 2015 #26

I'm sorry. I see your son's point....but I also understand your disappointment. StevieM Aug 2015 #12

Thank you, Stevie. Duppers Aug 2015 #23

he has plenty of time to change his mind Skittles Aug 2015 #25

My mother, in the '60s, limited her family size in part due to environmental concerns REP Aug 2015 #8

My husband comes from a big family, but Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #10

I was actually just discussing this issue with my aunt the last time I went home for a visit. StevieM Aug 2015 #11

Yes. Out of everyone I know, only two have children. Gregorian Aug 2015 #13

In my case, it was just poverty. Starry Messenger Aug 2015 #15

That's it for us as well. Juicy_Bellows Aug 2015 #24

Climate change solutions are going to require changing human behavior. alarimer Aug 2015 #19

I thonk you are being a pessimist Adrahil Aug 2015 #31

Growing up in the 50s and 60s made me decide to not have children csziggy Aug 2015 #20

population foxface666 Aug 2015 #29

True but in 1970 many people believed the predictions csziggy Aug 2015 #34

Absolutely. We've discussed it. hamsterjill Aug 2015 #21

vhemt or idiocracy? I'm leaning to vhemt, as far as my personal choices go Electric Monk Aug 2015 #27

I think that as the planet becomes more toxic, more children Ilsa Aug 2015 #30

Vietnam madokie Aug 2015 #32

As much as I love my children deutsey Aug 2015 #33

I had pre-Bush kids too and Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #39

I doubt it is causing people to reconsider Godhumor Aug 2015 #37

An important question marions ghost Aug 2015 #38

I didn't know anyone else was thinking about this! DeepModem Mom Aug 2015 #41