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In reply to the discussion: Dad lets daughter drown in Dubai so she's not 'dishonored' by male lifeguards' touch [View all]Syzygy321
(583 posts)(though the minority) they DO regret it.
You may remember a headline story from about ten years ago: a Pakistani woman was attacked by her husband because he had heard gossip about her, as I remember. He smashed her ribs with an axe handle, and cut off her nose and tongue. I think he blinded her as well. She fought for justice (the only sweet spot: a devoted younger brother helped her) and the man eventually went to prison on a light sentence. In his jail interview he said, "I loved her! I still do.". (Ypu can decide for yourself what kind of "love" that is.)
Another incident, more touching: this one Arab as I remember. A teen girl became pregnant after rape. Her father loved her. But, he said, everywhere in town his friends were saying, "How can you live with shame? Aren't you a man? Aren't you going to cleanse your name?". Eventually he killed her due to the pressure.
In my experience little girls are adored by their parents - but there comes a turning point (early puberty) when they stop being seen as human children, and become more like possessions. Their symbolic importance as Vessels of Chastity matters more than their lives after that. They are put on notice: they are still loved and still family BUT they better watch their step or else.