Sentence in student sex case shocks ex-teacher in Oklahoma

[MsTanja]

111. Too many posts

attempt to explain this away as "he was probably already having sex" and "how can this damage a 15 year old boy" and "you have to be aroused to have sex".

And they all make we want to puke.

As others here have noted, rape is rape. Period. It does not need to be violent to be rape. The power balance has also been mentioned, but for those of you who don't understand it, a person in a position of power (teacher) uses that power and authority to convince/coerce/instigate sexual activity with the subordinate (student).

The reasons she wanted to have sex with him don't matter. The adult is the one responsible for never crossing that line with a child -- no matter what. And yes, sometimes the child feels special and possibly even brags about it, but this child does not have the full capacity to refuse -- and that translates to the inability to consent. And where there is no consent or an inability to consent there is rape. Plain and simple.

People need to let go of the idea that the only kind of rape is a stranger in a dark alley holding a knife to a woman's throat.

ANY kind of sex that does not involve full, informed, willing, enthusiastic, free from power play and manipulated consent IS rape. And don't even bring up the "what if they're both drunk" scenario. Different topic - also apologist to rapists.

Those that make excuses or call for less harsh punishment perpetuate the stereotype that continues to harm children to this day.