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Enrique

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45. thank you very much

Sun Aug 16, 2015, 11:13 AM

Aug 2015

for taking the time and putting so much thought into it. Your answer is along the lines of what I was concerned about. It's a relief that you and a handful of others understand at least the gist of what I was asking. Hopefully many others do as well and just decided not to post.

The Salon article is really excellent, the good/bad binary is something I've been aware of, the rest of it is pretty much new to me.

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Comment about someone's race at work: big deal or not? [View all] Enrique Aug 2015 OP

I think you need to ask young black professionals. Shrike47 Aug 2015 #1

I would agree. EL34x4 Aug 2015 #32

In a country ... sendero Aug 2015 #2

I think it showed that they were treating her like anybody else. You said you're sure.. BlueJazz Aug 2015 #3

Agree. Not a racist comment. TexasMommaWithAHat Aug 2015 #12

Pretending to be "color blind" is just that--a pretense. tblue37 Aug 2015 #26

But if some people think that the above joke is racist TexasMommaWithAHat Aug 2015 #27

That is true, of course. But I dream of a time when skin color is merely a tblue37 Aug 2015 #29

Yeah. TexasMommaWithAHat Aug 2015 #30

I love that poem. Iris Aug 2015 #34

I used to work in a dept and we had 2 guys both named the same. CurtEastPoint Aug 2015 #4

"Hardware Tom" or "Software Tom" would be pretty funny also. yellowcanine Aug 2015 #9

Tom Jones, people would dance. How could you not? alphafemale Aug 2015 #11

Actually, what's funnier is they were both named 'Tony Curtis.' Swear! CurtEastPoint Aug 2015 #13

To pretend you don't notice someones race...? alphafemale Aug 2015 #15

I find that I can say that to colleagues who have lived in the south a long time. Iris Aug 2015 #35

I have a friend with my same name who is black. Frank Cannon Aug 2015 #21

I also worked at a place w/a guy who had my identical first and last name. CurtEastPoint Aug 2015 #25

I think it was wrong Generic Brad Aug 2015 #5

We had a president and Vice President yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #14

Saving for later MrScorpio Aug 2015 #6

i'm looking forward to it Enrique Aug 2015 #22

I think that all of the "jokes" sound unprofessional and rude. yellowcanine Aug 2015 #7

If that rule is unwritten where did it come from? Or is it just your opinion? Myself I think totodeinhere Aug 2015 #17

It's based on my experience in a professional workplace. yellowcanine Aug 2015 #37

Yep. The person who makes the "joke" now has a bag of trouble floating in the air. Hassin Bin Sober Aug 2015 #39

Brilliant response. lapislzi Aug 2015 #48

That's ridiculous. LiberalAndProud Aug 2015 #19

The "unwritten" part is the fact that you can't account for every situation. yellowcanine Aug 2015 #47

"I wouldn't in a million years ask her about it. " Cal Carpenter Aug 2015 #8

Sounds like Bob was the brunt of all the jokes madville Aug 2015 #10

Unless your story includes more that makes it racist, then it isn't racism lunatica Aug 2015 #16

whether it's racist isn't among my questions Enrique Aug 2015 #23

Not racist. "What's wrong with being dark" nails it. (nt) Nye Bevan Aug 2015 #18

I can't see that as racist Lee-Lee Aug 2015 #20

a number of people are answering a question I didn't ask Enrique Aug 2015 #24

It was inappropriate & he's lucky there wasn't a complaint. CrispyQ Aug 2015 #28

Not racist. Not sexist. Not ageist. TexasMommaWithAHat Aug 2015 #31

I would say that's not racist. Quantess Aug 2015 #33

context is everything Skittles Aug 2015 #36

What I'd like to do here is simply give you a difference in perspective. MrScorpio Aug 2015 #38

Beautiful post alcibiades_mystery Aug 2015 #41

thank you very much Enrique Aug 2015 #45

SMDH alcibiades_mystery Aug 2015 #40

Most people nowadays would need psychiatric hospitalization Facility Inspector Aug 2015 #42

I'd be ashamed of myself for asking thie question. The answer, of course, is YES, IT'S A BIG DEAL. cherokeeprogressive Aug 2015 #43

I'm the proud father of a child; born a Daughter, who realized She was the Son I'd always wanted. cherokeeprogressive Aug 2015 #44

I wouldn't make that remark. DirkGently Aug 2015 #46