People Are Strange

[H2O Man]

79. Right.

It's a label that you are sensitive about, because someone mis-diagnosed it. And it was in a situation -- and I'm speculating to an extent -- where you had entered with a degree of trust, opened up, and were hoping for some insight that would be helpful to you. Unfortunately, one out of ten therapists graduates in the bottom 10% of their class -- it cannot be otherwise -- and some diagnoses are simply incorrect.

And, particularly in females, that one is over-diagnosed. In part, it is because of insurance -- in order to get paid, a clinician has to apply some label to a person after a few meetings. In many instances, if nothing else stands out, they go with "old reliable." For every female -- and, indeed, every male -- will have some personality feature that can be associated with borderline PD.

But I don't know you. I don't even know if you are male or female. I recognize your "name" here, because it is different, and interesting enough to stand out. But I certainly do not associate "Crunchy Frog" with the toxic arguing that damages meaningful conversations on this forum. And it is that toxicity that I am referencing in the OP.

I would venture that every person on DU who has posted a few thousand comments has had one or two (or more) that where grumpy, reactive, or even hostile. That's human nature. For there are no saints -- not on DU, nor in real life. There are just human beings.And it is not the few grumpy, reactive, or even hostile comments that are blurted out every so often that I was focusing on. Rather, it is the people who engage in that tone, or language, on a frequent, on-going basis, as the primary means of discussing disagreements. And by no coincidence, those are not the people who tend to read anything I post here, much less the type who would ever question if the topic applied in any way to them. Thus, the OP cannot be talking about you, or people with similar situations.

The reasons why I opt to write the way I do can perhaps be summed up most accurately by two factors: I try to write about that which I am familiar with, as it applies to "current events"; and about issues that I think may be of interest (or value) to others here. Over the years, for example, I've written about the great sport of boxing -- and not just for the sports forum. I've noted numerous times that "all of life imitates the sport of boxing." Not everyone agrees, of course, but I believe that my essays about society and politics that take a boxing approach are on target. I also write about sociology and psychology, to the same results.