Why should I care what they think, I care what I think. I define who I am, nobody else does. It doesn't matter what they say, and it doesn't matter what they accept or like.
Being a redhead, I discovered that truth as a little kid and throughout my life it has saved me from wasting a lot of time in the pointless neurotic head trips created by others, that I watched so many people get sucked into. Being offended is exactly that, it's playing along with a negative-attention-seeking game -- why give it the payoff they want? Indifference is what hurts them the most.
I say, be what you decide is cool to be and more often than not, people are drawn to you, you don't have to follow them and cater to their imposed "standards". It's true. It's human nature. Some people are going to like you and some won't no matter what you do. Don't worry about the ones who don't like you, think of them as background like wallpaper. Focus on the ones who "get" you, they're your people. The rest don't matter. Nobody is liked by everybody.
Btw, nitwits like this one in the OP feel even freer to ridicule thin people ("you're anorexic!"
. It's open season on them because it's played off as a backhanded compliment. It isn't, it's just as nasty as slamming anybody else. I am intensely repulsed by people who enjoy tearing others down as a "tactic". In real life, I can usually make it backfire on them in a way that they don't soon forget. Sometimes online too.
Yes, empathy is a good thing. But don't depend on it. Don't let others' lack of it cost you.
Anyway, that's my 2 cents for today (for any who may need to hear it right now, or just want to).
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