White people don't want to talk about it

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23. well, as a white woman, I have learned from thr DU community recently

that unless one is in 100% agreement with poc - they don't want to hear what white people have to say. If one is not 100% in agreement-one is a white liberal racist (which has been made clear on DU- is worse than overt bigots who wear the white pointed hoods) or that one is white splaining and one's opinions, concerns and thoughts and experiences are dismissed as "fluffery". Yes, "fluffery" is the word that was used by one person who did not like what I had to say.

In so many words it has been said here- that no matter what I or anyone else has done or experienced either as a white person or as a minority themselves throughout their lives to eliminate bigoted attitudes and eliminate racist systems both in themselves and others, it will never be enough. When in fact, my ancestors didn't come to this country until the early 1900's and were just as poor and powerless (and still are) to make changes to a system that was already in place when they got here.

I have come to the conclusion that unless I'm tripping over myself trying to convince the poc here how not racist I am or that I don't hold bigoted attitudes (which by the way, I believe everyone does- including poc- and have admitted to myself in several posts- despite being married to a African American man and having a multi racial child), my thoughts, opinions and concerns are not welcome.

So no, I will not discuss race with people on DU who hide behind their keyboards and do nothing but accuse and demand that you agree with them no matter what they have to say and beg forgiveness from them for a system that for the most part our ancestors are responsible for.

What I will do- is continue to live life in the real world confront bigotry when I recognize it and allow all people to judge me by my character and the deeds I have performed there.