White people don't want to talk about it

[qwlauren35]

127. I hear you.

What you experience is different from being black, but I have no doubt that it has had MAJOR repercussions.

I think the issue is you can go "invisible" when you want to, when your husband and child are not around. You may not experience "driving while black" or getting dirty looks and no service in department stores when you are alone. On the other hand, you may get dirty looks for having a biracial child, or a black husband, and no doubt, when your husband is driving, there is always the possibility that things may "go wrong". You may have fears for your husband and child who live with "being black" and there's not a damned thing you can do to protect them from it.

As a very light skinned person (I get a lot of second looks and people trying to "figure me out&quot , married to a dark skinned man, I may understand some of it.

Maybe.

I think what 1SBM is saying is that you straddle the two worlds, one foot in and one foot out. I have no doubt that being halfway in is daunting, and uncomfortable, and you see racism constantly, and have it thrown in your face whenever you are with your family, or discussing your family, or around people who know you married a black man. You are probably SO MUCH MORE IN TUNE with racism than anyone who has not married a black man ever could be. It may even feel like a constant in your life because people you love, cherish, might even die for, are black. And subjected to racism every day of their lives.

Especially as a white mother of a black child, you may feel anguish over all of the things that you cannot protect your child from.

At any rate, let me know if I get it.