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phylny

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8. I work with parents of children with autism, and have worked with lots of

Fri Sep 18, 2015, 03:30 PM

Sep 2015

kids with autism in my career. The first thing I say to parents when the child is very, very young is that they need to consistently work on behavior, because "One day he'll be 16 years old and 160 pounds of pure muscle, and you won't be able to physically help or control him."

I'm not sure I buy the "property values" complaint, but I can see where not being able to allow your children outside to play without fear or being hurt is a very valid concern. If this child is not able to control his behavior, it is the responsibility of his parents to find a way to accommodate the needs of their child with the safety of others.

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Neighbors sue to declare autistic boy a public nuisance [View all] KamaAina Sep 2015 OP

Some days I don't even want to be part of American society... hlthe2b Sep 2015 #1

Pulling kids hair? Why are the kids close enough for that to happen? yeoman6987 Sep 2015 #2

Huffington Post: My Son Has the Kind of Autism No One Talks About proverbialwisdom Sep 2015 #13

As an elementary school teacher for 40 years all I can say is ... 11 Bravo Sep 2015 #32

Years ago when the ARC started moving its members jwirr Sep 2015 #3

As if any child could lower the property values in Sili Valley. *rolls eyes.* Gormy Cuss Sep 2015 #4

I find this heartbreaking vankuria Sep 2015 #5

These parents did little to control their child's dangerous behavior for years REP Sep 2015 #6

This article contains NOTHING to support your assertion. pnwmom Sep 2015 #16

I lived in that neighborhood for years REP Sep 2015 #21

So? Living in "that neighborhood" doesn't qualify you as an unbiased expert. pnwmom Sep 2015 #22

Thank you kcr Sep 2015 #24

So your solution to autism is to teach it away. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2015 #33

What objective evidence leads you to that specific conclusion? LanternWaste Sep 2015 #40

some autistic kids can be violent and a threat to others to others. It is up to the responsible msongs Sep 2015 #7

The neighbor across the street knows the situation, and she doesn't agree with pnwmom Sep 2015 #17

Um. Does living in "that neighborhood" qualify the neighbor as an unbiased expert? Orrex Sep 2015 #25

The developmental disability administration in my state offers intensive behavioral support lumberjack_jeff Sep 2015 #34

It's infuriating to me, too. pnwmom Sep 2015 #39

I work with parents of children with autism, and have worked with lots of phylny Sep 2015 #8

The fact they're worried about property values isn't a clue? kcr Sep 2015 #23

We're hated by a certain part of the community, then again they would find someone else Rex Sep 2015 #9

I know -- what cat would allow some kid to sit on it without doing major damage to the human? pnwmom Sep 2015 #18

A sleeping cat. Been there, seen that. bettyellen Sep 2015 #37

The only kid in our former neighborhood MissB Sep 2015 #10

The parents ought to countersue the neighbors meow2u3 Sep 2015 #11

Someone else at DU knows the word "ableist"?! KamaAina Sep 2015 #12

The injunction seems reasonable and would apply to all of us.. Jesus Malverde Sep 2015 #14

The boy is 11, with a disability, and they're treating him like he's a hardened criminal. n/t pnwmom Sep 2015 #19

It looks like a different judge got the families into mediation. Jesus Malverde Sep 2015 #15

It sounds like both the couples suing want significant financial awards. pnwmom Sep 2015 #20

i saw a very interesting article written on this issue that i think makes a lot of sense La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2015 #26

You should have seen me when I was 11 KamaAina Sep 2015 #27

but did your meltdown threaten other children? did it involve slapping babies? La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2015 #28

When my son was 6 or 7... lumberjack_jeff Sep 2015 #36

The headline gave me chills. Have we slipped so low we can't have compassion for anything? Frustratedlady Sep 2015 #29

I don't get this part. NaturalHigh Sep 2015 #30

It depends on the "or else" language following the injunction. n/t lumberjack_jeff Sep 2015 #35

perhaps property values went down because it got to be know there were asshole neighbors dembotoz Sep 2015 #31

I don't see any proof that this boy has lowered property values. kiva Sep 2015 #38