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nadine_mn

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69. So glad you said this - because I needed more people telling me how lazy I am

Thu Oct 1, 2015, 03:51 PM

Oct 2015

I am morbidly obese. Yes I have made shitty choices.

Food is my drug of choice, it is how I self medicate. I know it. When I was a binge drinker in school I was a lot thinner.

I need to eat better, I need to exercise. Thank you for telling me how simple it is to just stop being lazy. Does it work with depression too? Can I just stop being depressed? Because when I am depressed I find it nearly impossible to move or leave the house. Maybe all this time, despite the medication and therapy, I should have just decided to "stop it".

My whole life I have had people tell me how fat and disgusting I am (even when I was younger and surprisingly, looking back on old photos, not fat). Been told I am lazy too and I should be ashamed of myself. Funny thing is, that attitude never helped me lose weight, never motivated me.

What did help - people being supportive, helpful and not judgmental. I lost 30 lbs in 8 mos because of all the support and people accepting me.

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It's Gotten Harder to Lose Weight- And Not for the Reasons You Think [View all] TygrBright Oct 2015 OP

K&R hedgehog Oct 2015 #1

The amount of sugars in our diets have changed our gut bacteria Marrah_G Oct 2015 #2

All bacteria thrives on sugar. It doesn't select "bad" bacteria. jeff47 Oct 2015 #11

Low carb changed my whole life. Great book..... Logical Oct 2015 #21

I am sick of hearing this �learned helplessness" PNW_Dem Oct 2015 #48

You seem to know it all so no need to comment! Nt Logical Oct 2015 #63

So glad you said this - because I needed more people telling me how lazy I am nadine_mn Oct 2015 #69

^^^^^^^ phylny Oct 2015 #95

People who don't use food as a drug have no idea what people with snagglepuss Oct 2015 #96

+1 laundry_queen Oct 2015 #98

Just put on a happy face. What the hell is wrong with you? Ed Suspicious Oct 2015 #102

We love and support you here. You are one of us a Democrat. classykaren Oct 2015 #117

Thank you so much - I needed that nadine_mn Oct 2015 #126

I notice PNW_DEM didn't bother to respond AndreaCG Oct 2015 #133

94 > 135 PNW_Dem Oct 2015 #136

Isn't there a yahoo newstory artislife Oct 2015 #88

I'm amused. phylny Oct 2015 #94

Bacteria does not cause obesity. Feron Oct 2015 #134

Keep up the fight PNW_Dem Oct 2015 #135

I know from changing the places and the things I eat that for poor Maraya1969 Oct 2015 #97

You sound like you would could find a soulmate in this lady. Ed Suspicious Oct 2015 #101

Sure. Again, a low-carb diet is easier to stay on. jeff47 Oct 2015 #55

I disagree, never hungry is the low carb! Thus no snacking. And carbs feed sugar issue. Nt Logical Oct 2015 #62

Never hungry = easier to stay on. (nt) jeff47 Oct 2015 #64

Nothing else ever worked including calorie restriction. So ther is more to it.... Logical Oct 2015 #68

Low carb is calorie restriction. "Counting carbohydrates" is a proxy for counting calories. jeff47 Oct 2015 #72

"Low carb is calorie restriction." Not necessarily, if you're eating more fats. n/t eShirl Oct 2015 #118

We will just need to disagree on this. Nt Logical Oct 2015 #121

You'd be surprised how many calories you can eat. ladyVet Oct 2015 #73

Not-carbs that include meat also include all the steroids that are causing ANGER ISSUES loudsue Oct 2015 #107

Yep. I'm with ya. emmadoggy Oct 2015 #108

What Emma said! It's useless to blame individual people because our whole culture Nay Oct 2015 #128

I think it's more complicated, especially when you throw metabolic issues into the mix such as Ed Suspicious Oct 2015 #103

In a week of giving up bread you feel so much better. classykaren Oct 2015 #116

There are differences in how our body uses fructose and glucose though Marrah_G Oct 2015 #35

Yes, but those are both carbohydrates jeff47 Oct 2015 #54

Sugar is definitely enemy #1 Cosmocat Oct 2015 #38

Sugar is definitely my crack nadine_mn Oct 2015 #66

Suggestion... Qutzupalotl Oct 2015 #78

Thank you for such a thoughtful and helpful response nadine_mn Oct 2015 #82

I've gone on the one-cheat-a-week plan. backscatter712 Oct 2015 #87

Beans! Not the BPA-canned kind, but the kind you cook yourself. Beans with butter. Yum! valerief Oct 2015 #125

mmm beans nadine_mn Oct 2015 #127

I like this idea so much. I'm going to give it a try for a while. Ed Suspicious Oct 2015 #104

Thank you this is very similar to the carb addicts diet classykaren Oct 2015 #119

Oh, me too! emmadoggy Oct 2015 #109

So have the antibiotics we take from time to time. They use them in animals' feed to fatten them up pnwmom Oct 2015 #76

I have taken multiple doses of antibiotics Lilyhoney Oct 2015 #86

Good luck! pnwmom Oct 2015 #105

That's also part of it laundry_queen Oct 2015 #99

Keep going, Marrah! I can't even walk down the cereal aisle anymore, it smells sugary gross! Dont call me Shirley Oct 2015 #80

Obesity rates have seemed to rise in correlation to the increasing amount of crap allowed in our Mnemosyne Oct 2015 #3

Because we have digestive tracts. jeff47 Oct 2015 #6

Thanks jeff47 for that information! haikugal Oct 2015 #34

The "no fat" foods of the 70s have not helped at all. Nt Logical Oct 2015 #19

You've got that right! get the red out Oct 2015 #29

I think it prevents the gas Demeter Oct 2015 #114

A bunch of speculation, which the Kuk made clear ... GeorgeGist Oct 2015 #4

so you discount all the research referenced in the article? are you okay with the "it's all your niyad Oct 2015 #8

She admits "the explanations are still only hypotheses" progressoid Oct 2015 #67

in the documentary "designing healthy communities", one of the points made was that the niyad Oct 2015 #5

+1.I read that people who live in suburbs are 6-10 lbs. heavier than folks in the city or country. appalachiablue Oct 2015 #41

let me know what you think when you have finished. niyad Oct 2015 #91

I agree with this whole heartedly. We live in the suburbs nadine_mn Oct 2015 #89

nothing silly about your last statement at all--that is one of the reasons that mall walk groups niyad Oct 2015 #93

Thank you. It's hard to live a healthy life, hard to find foods, avoid toxins... MindfulOne Oct 2015 #7

stress is a huge factor taught_me_patience Oct 2015 #9

Yes. a la izquierda Oct 2015 #49

A lot of people think "hormone problems" are just an excuse. Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2015 #10

Yep LittleGirl Oct 2015 #45

That's good! Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2015 #92

Yes LittleGirl Oct 2015 #113

Everyone seems to glanced over this phrase:(the explanations are still only hypotheses) Deadshot Oct 2015 #12

And, of course they compound the problem... Wounded Bear Oct 2015 #37

For the overwhelming majority of people, healthy eating and exercise is enough mythology Oct 2015 #13

Lean meats are pretty much just as good. I ate an apple, 4 chicken breasts, 2 buns, 2 pieces of MillennialDem Oct 2015 #30

everyone has a different metabolism. My husband had a heart attack 4 and half months ago so liberal_at_heart Oct 2015 #124

Calories in, calories out is a bunch of propaganda created by the food industry. Chakab Oct 2015 #14

Cutting carbs solved my weight issue! Nt Logical Oct 2015 #23

Works fast too! get the red out Oct 2015 #31

I was shocked by that. Compared to normal diets it was amazing. Nt Logical Oct 2015 #32

To me, protein makes me full rather than fat or sugar. MillennialDem Oct 2015 #24

No, actually your body does treat the calories the same jeff47 Oct 2015 #59

I think the "Industry" is to blame. Marketing and Buisness practices. MasonDreams Oct 2015 #15

Damn right! cheapdate Oct 2015 #52

When i stopped carbs and sweets it solved my weight problem. Nt Logical Oct 2015 #16

Huge amount of calories in the sugars and carbs. backscatter712 Oct 2015 #20

I run on diet dr pepper and i was able to lose 1/2 a pound a day for 2 months last year. I also MillennialDem Oct 2015 #25

me, too NJCher Oct 2015 #100

I won't say that calories is the only part of the equation. But it's a huge part. backscatter712 Oct 2015 #17

I've been avoiding PatSeg Oct 2015 #18

Make the base of your meals (60%) Vegatables. You will lose weight. WestCoastLib Oct 2015 #22

The one thing I noticed on Twitter is there seems to be a lot yuiyoshida Oct 2015 #26

Man made food is bad for the human body. Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2015 #27

To quote Spock - 3catwoman3 Oct 2015 #28

I've also been following some of the fitness and bodybuilding circles. backscatter712 Oct 2015 #33

A married couple (friends of mine) went gluten free and stayed with it.... C Moon Oct 2015 #36

I had to go gluten AND diary free LittleGirl Oct 2015 #47

Poverty hibbing Oct 2015 #39

And a lot of poor neighborhoods are food deserts. backscatter712 Oct 2015 #43

A load of pet theories here, my anecdote TexasProgresive Oct 2015 #40

This message was self-deleted by its author backscatter712 Oct 2015 #42

I have sport horses and agree, the differing metabolism is a huge factor riderinthestorm Oct 2015 #51

You made me remember about some friends' horses TexasProgresive Oct 2015 #58

Oo, oo, I have a similar story. EVERY TIME Mr Nay and I go on vacation, we lose Nay Oct 2015 #129

How about when the Nay's go on vacation stateside? TexasProgresive Oct 2015 #131

For most people, it's calories in - calories out Prism Oct 2015 #44

There's danger in floating conjecture which contradicts "calories in - calories out" Major Nikon Oct 2015 #84

Sigh... gcomeau Oct 2015 #46

Sigh... TygrBright Oct 2015 #61

It seems as though people are looking for ways to blame everything but themselves Deadshot Oct 2015 #65

Yes melman Oct 2015 #70

As a yo-yo dieter all my 59 years, I decided 5 years ago to change my life and my diet because I was Holly_Hobby Oct 2015 #50

Its not enough fiber, too much sugar, too much sitting. nt ErikJ Oct 2015 #53

Moderation is much easier to adhere to than dietary exclusion. <nt> AtomicKitten Oct 2015 #56

my mom and i always talk about how in india every once in a while you'll get some GI disease La Lioness Priyanka Oct 2015 #57

And, conversely, the antibiotics more readily available here contribute to weight gain. pnwmom Oct 2015 #75

Your assertion isn't found in your link Major Nikon Oct 2015 #90

I've been happier since I put on weight PasadenaTrudy Oct 2015 #60

This post makes me very sad. grossproffit Oct 2015 #123

I'm happy, you're sad...oh well! n/t PasadenaTrudy Oct 2015 #132

Pasadena, I've loved getting old for the same reason. nt Nay Oct 2015 #130

perhaps we should subsidize local fruits and veggies instead of corn? killbotfactory Oct 2015 #71

kick Blue_Tires Oct 2015 #74

I'm 91 and fit, and I will tell you how MosheFeingold Oct 2015 #77

Well you sound fitter than most persons malaise Oct 2015 #81

You've nailed it! Move more, eat less. Enjoy what you do, and when it starts creeping up, underahedgerow Oct 2015 #111

Sugar, artificial ingredients, pesticides, gmos, chemicals, lack of living organisms beneficial Dont call me Shirley Oct 2015 #79

Sure, because anyone who dares contradict pseudoscience nonsense Major Nikon Oct 2015 #85

I dropped about 20 pounds when madville Oct 2015 #83

Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2015 #106

Cost is what? Howmany jobs do you work? rpannier Oct 2015 #120

Another study chimes in about zalinda Oct 2015 #110

K&R!!!!!! burrowowl Oct 2015 #112

And the poor can not afford organic non-GMO food. classykaren Oct 2015 #115

I don't profess to know much about gut bacteria and such Trajan Oct 2015 #122