Christian website: Don’t look at your wife’s face during sex to enjoy it even when she resists

[Manifestor_of_Light]

84. I have a question:

Ok, so if you are a Christian and you literally believe what's in the Bible (don't know which version you prefer, with or without Apocrypha, or what translation), do you think that it is HONORING and CHERISHING your partner to demand sex from them when they feel terribly sick, say, have the flu, or pneumonia, or if they are a woman, having horrendous menstrual cramps, bedridden, and feeling weak from losing so much blood?


You say it doesn't mention or IMPLY force. Well, if I was married to someone who insisted that I have sex with them when I was quite ill, I would file for divorce as soon as I got better, because obviously that man (I'm a woman) does NOT CARE about my feelings at that time. That is not loving, honoring and cherishing your spouse. Besides, what if the woman refuses, yet you say there is no "force" involved? Not even implied? How do you get a spouse to consent to sex if they don't feel like it unless you use some kind of coercion?


What is force?? Holding a gun to your head? Whining constantly at you until you give in? Yelling at you until you give in? Kicking the bed? (Yes, I have known people who do this.) Pouring water on you while you're lying in bed? Accusing you of faking being sick just "to get attention" when you are in so much pain you wish you would just hurry up and die? Although I just laid there and suffered whether he was in the room or not. (I've heard that one too from an ex-husband.)

Threatening violence?

That said, we all know that Paul was a woman hater who was responsible for a lot of the patriarchal idea of the inferiority of women in Christianity. Not only is god a mass murderer, but men who oppress women and girls and tell them they are chattel and inferior, well, god is fine with that too, because the bible says so. Because it's a huge mess assembled by a committee at the Council of Nicaea as ordered to by Emperor Constantine, and it was edited to add and remove things. I learned that in my religion courses at a Protestant college (not one of these fringe denominations).