Woman pretends to be drunk for social experiment, gets barraged by men

[Orrex]

29. Clarification, please

try and get the phone yourself and arrange for a friend to help.

Unless she's given explicit permission, how can the samaritan know that this is ok? Even if the intention is pure, taking the phone without her consent--however briefly--seems potentially problematic.

Many years ago I was leaving a late shift at the restaurant where I worked. On a bench outside a bar I noticed a pair of 20-something women obviously drunk and obviously distressed. One was hunched over and covering her chest, crying because some third woman had torn her shirt/blouse off of her. Her friend couldn't help because she had no shirt to spare, so I offered mine and they accepted at once. Then they went their way while I went mine, and I never saw them again.

But as I did so I was aware of the problem of a tall-ish stranger approaching two drunk and vulnerable women, one of them involuntarily topless after an attack.


I guess my point is that the majority of people--even men--seem to want to do the right thing, but they're not always sure how to do it without seeming a threat or making the situation worse, especially if the person isn't in a position to ask for help.