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bettyellen

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64. Well if she needed help getting the phone in working order (as in the video) or was starting to nod out

Wed Nov 4, 2015, 08:41 PM

Nov 2015

then getting the phone up and working for her and finding a friend to come help would be the best thing.
I think if you are trying to get them to a crowded, well lit place, and get some coffee/ water/ help from others you're not going to be judged harshly. Even if you are a tremendous asshole and try to give them more booze or get them alone, the worst that happens is someone will fear you are potentially a danger. But it's not as if you're going to be arrested for rape, is it? If the worst danger you're in is a stranger thinking you're a rapey asshole, that's not nearly as worrisome as the position she is in, is it?

You have to love the other poster trying to twist being a decent human being into some awful sexist thing. Jeeze that's selfish and disgusting.

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Woman pretends to be drunk for social experiment, gets barraged by men [View all] Blue_Tires Nov 2015 OP

Yeesh. Urgh. Blagg. Blurrrf. RadiationTherapy Nov 2015 #1

"None offer to help her..." CrispyQ Nov 2015 #2

Sickening, isn't it? smirkymonkey Nov 2015 #14

Such as it ever was...nt jonno99 Nov 2015 #3

Here's the video if you want to be disgusted. progressoid Nov 2015 #4

definitely not watching the video. scum, each and every one of them. niyad Nov 2015 #5

Good gravy come on guys... JackInGreen Nov 2015 #6

Shocking? Is there anyone still shocked by this? Rex Nov 2015 #7

This was in Spain oberliner Nov 2015 #10

The experiment was in Madrid, Spain. nt Erich Bloodaxe BSN Nov 2015 #28

Please name the country where this wouldn't happen. n/t cigsandcoffee Nov 2015 #32

Can't think of one. Rex Nov 2015 #33

I'm not LittleBlue Nov 2015 #57

Not even the tiniest bit shocked. n/t Butterbean Nov 2015 #66

Not surprising Z_California Nov 2015 #8

Huh? Most males are either adolescents or plastic? closeupready Nov 2015 #19

Colloquialisms can be difficult to understand for literalists, I guess. LanternWaste Nov 2015 #48

The predatory class strikes again... CoffeeCat Nov 2015 #9

+100 n/t whathehell Nov 2015 #53

Reminds me of the video of the woman walking through NYC and getting harrassed, Nye Bevan Nov 2015 #11

Except this video wasn't edited to only show dark-skinned folks Blue_Tires Nov 2015 #46

How should this be handled? Jokerman Nov 2015 #12

Stay with her, get her sober. Try and get her to text a friend for help and if she won't try and bettyellen Nov 2015 #13

Good advice, but her phone battery was dead. Jokerman Nov 2015 #16

I was going to say coffee shop too- and ask for help with the charging it there. bettyellen Nov 2015 #18

Agreed Jokerman Nov 2015 #22

As long as you don't try to get her drunker, or get her alone no one will think it's a problem bettyellen Nov 2015 #24

Random people on the street should stay with the drunk woman until she sobers up? The2ndWheel Nov 2015 #23

People who actually want to help should help. Some people have empathy, and almost everyone has bettyellen Nov 2015 #25

Did I say she should be "punished" by rapists? The2ndWheel Nov 2015 #38

Are they obligated to help? No. Would it be the decent thing to do? Yes. Jokerman Nov 2015 #26

Help with what though? The2ndWheel Nov 2015 #50

It doesn't take a mind-reader to recognize that someone could be vulnerable. Jokerman Nov 2015 #60

You're just playing ignorant again with this silly "do women just need help all the time" crap. bettyellen Nov 2015 #62

Not to mention, she might not have chosen to drink excessively. KitSileya Nov 2015 #39

How is anyone supposed to know any details? The2ndWheel Nov 2015 #55

She was staggering, with predators closing in. It's not as hard as you pretend it is. Almost anyone bettyellen Nov 2015 #65

I would try to help her, yes Skittles Nov 2015 #49

Was she asking for help? The2ndWheel Nov 2015 #51

I don't care Skittles Nov 2015 #59

Many of us have! And would again. bettyellen Nov 2015 #63

yup Skittles Nov 2015 #68

My nephew did more than a few times on his campus. If you're a decent human being it's what you do. bettyellen Nov 2015 #71

Clarification, please Orrex Nov 2015 #29

Good for you, Orrex. You're right that sometimes it's hard to know how to help, but in the case pnwmom Nov 2015 #37

Aw, shucks! Orrex Nov 2015 #44

Well if she needed help getting the phone in working order (as in the video) or was starting to nod out bettyellen Nov 2015 #64

Seems to me you have all the answers right there. Brickbat Nov 2015 #15

Not really confusion, just trying not to make the situation any worse. Jokerman Nov 2015 #21

Homeless shelter if she has nowhere? treestar Nov 2015 #17

Get her a taxi ride home, but hey the driver might be a guy too. Rex Nov 2015 #34

First, stay with her. Help her sober up. riderinthestorm Nov 2015 #43

Great answer! Jokerman Nov 2015 #45

I second that -- You are a good guy to ask this question. n/t whathehell Nov 2015 #52

Call the police NickB79 Nov 2015 #54

I hate to say it but in today's world... Drahthaardogs Nov 2015 #61

some offered her their lancer78 Nov 2015 #72

This was Madrid, Spain? Had it been tried in Italy, she wouldn't even need to be drunk NightWatcher Nov 2015 #20

Or in America. Rex Nov 2015 #36

remember how a bunch of men whined when it was noted that all men geek tragedy Nov 2015 #27

MRA regulars won't touch this post. trumad Nov 2015 #31

What year? DU been around a long time now. Rex Nov 2015 #35

2012, 2013, 2014, etc etc. geek tragedy Nov 2015 #40

When I was in college, a friend of ours got blasted at a party. We walked her back to the dorm NickB79 Nov 2015 #56

it's really disturbing. one would hope this kind of stuff would be going away, geek tragedy Nov 2015 #58

This is why I never get drunk. Oneironaut Nov 2015 #30

No one at all tried to help her? Make7 Nov 2015 #41

some offered their phones lancer78 Nov 2015 #73

We (men) are pigs...not all but way more than are not /nt sdfernando Nov 2015 #42

I kinda figured that reading the thread, common sense solutions would get lost in problematic what-i LanternWaste Nov 2015 #47

Not surprised in the least. Quantess Nov 2015 #67

For those saying take her to a coffee shop, wait with her until a friend comes, etc., Nye Bevan Nov 2015 #69

I've seen it and done it at frat parties, bars in NYC and another town that is basically like a bettyellen Nov 2015 #70