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51. No, not at all.

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Is grown women calling their fathers "Daddy" a sign of unconscious submission to patriarchy? [View all] Shankapotomus Nov 2015 OP

Nope. I called my dad "Daddy" until the day he died. leftofcool Nov 2015 #1

Me too... msrizzo Nov 2015 #67

me 3 840high Nov 2015 #138

Me 4 Mojorabbit Nov 2015 #157

Wow Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #177

He had a wry sense of humor. If I said, "Father, I have a bone to pick with you" Mojorabbit Nov 2015 #197

Your Dad sounds like a great person Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #199

...and then I turned the gun on Mommy jberryhill Nov 2015 #71

......... sufrommich Nov 2015 #73

LMAO leftofcool Nov 2015 #152

What is really freakish: Spouses calling each other 'daddy' and 'mommy.' nt TheBlackAdder Nov 2015 #116

Not really she earned the title FreakinDJ Nov 2015 #155

My parents called each other Mother and Father. When they did us kids ran LiberalArkie Nov 2015 #203

I called mine daddy until he died. Except I called him grandaddy when my son was around. peacebird Nov 2015 #179

The only adult people I can recall doing that were men, from the south, referring to their "daddy" etherealtruth Nov 2015 #2

I can understand "Dad" Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #9

.. and Mama? etherealtruth Nov 2015 #12

Yeeeeah, I know what you mean sibelian Nov 2015 #21

I agree with you Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #172

It's awkward. sibelian Nov 2015 #178

I'm pretty sure that if you Aerows Nov 2015 #188

There's a difference between deference and affection TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2015 #83

My father was southern and black. TM99 Nov 2015 #84

Yes, indeed. narnian60 Nov 2015 #89

Same here, with my northern, white dad. Lizzie Poppet Nov 2015 #114

I'm From PA RobinA Nov 2015 #183

I still call my dad "daddy" Marrah_G Nov 2015 #76

Feeling love for one's parents (and expressing it) is a good thing etherealtruth Nov 2015 #78

It's definitely a Southern thing Aerows Nov 2015 #142

Yeah .. we don't call our parents by their given names in the north, either etherealtruth Nov 2015 #143

I figured as much Aerows Nov 2015 #144

No It's Not RobinA Nov 2015 #184

Far be it from an outsider Aerows Nov 2015 #186

Seriously? whathehell Nov 2015 #196

When my step-sons are talking to me OriginalGeek Nov 2015 #217

My dad was daddy and my mom was mother till they both died... CTyankee Nov 2015 #154

My father has always been "Daddy" Aerows Nov 2015 #162

No (nt) bigwillq Nov 2015 #3

And what is it a sign of if grown men call their mothers "Mama"? hobbit709 Nov 2015 #4

For David Vitter it means his diaper is about to be changed Major Nikon Nov 2015 #210

My son is 41 years old,he calls my parents sufrommich Nov 2015 #5

But isn't there an implied wink Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #168

No, there is no implied wink,why would there be? nt sufrommich Nov 2015 #169

Okay so if the word "father" on all kinds of forms and speech Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #171

You don't see "Mom" or "Dad on forms either. There's a difference between sufrommich Nov 2015 #173

Daddy RobinA Nov 2015 #185

No. enough Nov 2015 #6

"23 Chromosome Provider" jberryhill Nov 2015 #69

lol treestar Nov 2015 #92

I refer to mine as mythology Nov 2015 #150

Nope JustAnotherGen Nov 2015 #7

Wtf? pintobean Nov 2015 #8

You've come to the right place for that -none Nov 2015 #35

Are you serious? Quantess Nov 2015 #10

I think it's a silly jab at someone on DU. sufrommich Nov 2015 #13

It's not a jab Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #15

I'm not going to play along with this. sufrommich Nov 2015 #22

It makes no difference at all..., daleanime Nov 2015 #27

But do you agree that pancake bunny is sufrommich Nov 2015 #32

Yes, but it would be much better pintobean Nov 2015 #40

That is JESUS CAT--he walks on water! MADem Nov 2015 #130

I like it, but I think this has more gravitis. kiva Nov 2015 #123

You win 5 internets. sufrommich Nov 2015 #140

Paging Dr. Freud. MADem Nov 2015 #60

LOL- Great lead line-Reminded me of redstateblues Nov 2015 #85

I LOVE that movie! Jane Lynch--HILARIOUS! MADem Nov 2015 #112

yes, it's a class thing treestar Nov 2015 #91

Wait, is this just like the "Tr*pical" thread that was posted yesterday? MH1 Nov 2015 #65

I hope my daughters never stop calling me "daddy." Throd Nov 2015 #136

Who cares? Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #14

So it is your theory that arents are forcing their children to use certain names? Thor_MN Nov 2015 #23

What rot!!! Punkingal Nov 2015 #48

Thank you. narnian60 Nov 2015 #93

Wow ... just wow. MH1 Nov 2015 #68

So How's This RobinA Nov 2015 #187

It's called fascism ... TheFarS1de Nov 2015 #189

Fascism? Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #192

Sorry ... TheFarS1de Nov 2015 #193

It's odd how often all the people outraged Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #194

I doubt it jamzrockz Nov 2015 #11

Pffft. Itchinjim Nov 2015 #16

Obviously, a parent. (eom) Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #18

Pffft. muriel_volestrangler Nov 2015 #137

Hm. It's very easy to add together little things and put big labels on them. sibelian Nov 2015 #17

If you know it is none of your business, as you say Cal Carpenter Nov 2015 #19

So the possibility someone has serious parent/child issues Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #25

Perhaps I haven't had enough coffee this morning Cal Carpenter Nov 2015 #34

I think it's cultural, actually...Women from the South & Southwest use it much more whathehell Nov 2015 #20

All of us in the south didn't live in a Tennessee Williams story... Punkingal Nov 2015 #50

This OP is aimed at a particular female DUer. sufrommich Nov 2015 #53

What a ridiculous waste of time. Punkingal Nov 2015 #55

Well,if it makes any difference, sufrommich Nov 2015 #59

Thank you! Punkingal Nov 2015 #62

No kidding..I don't believe I either said or implied that you did whathehell Nov 2015 #96

No johnson_z Nov 2015 #24

God I hope my Daughter continues to call me Daddy the rest of her life. trumad Nov 2015 #26

Good Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #30

Yes! 6chars Nov 2015 #43

Love ScreamingMeemie Nov 2015 #108

What about grown men calling their dads "Dad" or their moms "Mom"? Renew Deal Nov 2015 #28

It's "Daddy" or "Mommy" Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #33

Could be nostalgia Renew Deal Nov 2015 #44

If they didn't call them "Dad" or "Mom", what would they call them? Their first names? ladjf Nov 2015 #119

Or it might be a southern thing. stage left Nov 2015 #29

My sister's boys treestar Nov 2015 #95

Why would "childless" DUers care how other people address their parents? Renew Deal Nov 2015 #31

My point was Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #37

I can only speak for myself Reter Nov 2015 #36

Exactly Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #39

Same here. smirkymonkey Nov 2015 #106

What a self-centric perspective Boomer Nov 2015 #38

Do you think it represents Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #42

Loving and respecting your parents is like, so, ughhhh, ya know? FrodosPet Nov 2015 #66

Ok, as a childless DUer... Erich Bloodaxe BSN Nov 2015 #41

I think, at an early age, Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #45

Who is this "we" you speak of? Boomer Nov 2015 #49

Yes! narnian60 Nov 2015 #97

I get the sign of fondness and Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #195

Words have meaning Boomer Nov 2015 #47

Well, I don't consider paraphilias to be 'pathologies', merely predilections or choices. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Nov 2015 #52

Thanks for the clarification of your view Boomer Nov 2015 #58

I disagree personally with the DSM-IV on a number of subjects ;) Erich Bloodaxe BSN Nov 2015 #64

The use of the word "Mommy" is actually more intriguing Boomer Nov 2015 #77

No. I am a grown woman, no kids, grew up in West Virginia. Tanuki Nov 2015 #46

No, not at all. EV_Ares Nov 2015 #51

No A Little Weird Nov 2015 #54

is this post a sign that you have too much free time? TheSarcastinator Nov 2015 #56

I don't think free time is the problem Boomer Nov 2015 #61

Nonsense Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #147

I am 56, married and have no children. The answer is no. ms liberty Nov 2015 #57

Are ryan_cats Nov 2015 #63

No. My father died in 1992, but I always called him Daddy because that is what we tblue37 Nov 2015 #70

I have a cousin named after her mom,we still call her sufrommich Nov 2015 #79

what did you call your Mom and Dad?, it's always been 'Mom & Dad' for me, and for some people it's Sunlei Nov 2015 #72

Oh for fucks sake Marrah_G Nov 2015 #74

I'm not pissed Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #159

Pfffffffft. Warren DeMontague Nov 2015 #207

nope it's just the word they have always used karynnj Nov 2015 #75

My sister always did it. I found it stupid & annoying giftedgirl77 Nov 2015 #80

i think calling parents mommy & daddy when over 12 years old is freaking weird. JanMichael Nov 2015 #81

No, not mean and nasty... Punkingal Nov 2015 #94

I know what you mean. Mariana Nov 2015 #99

My daughter only begins conversations with Mommy/Mama when something has gone horribly ScreamingMeemie Nov 2015 #121

No, but paying any attention to such personal names for parents MineralMan Nov 2015 #82

My girls use it, but only in writing. DFW Nov 2015 #86

I don't think so. It beats "materialistic running dog capitalist swine." Buns_of_Fire Nov 2015 #87

No it's just a family/regional thing treestar Nov 2015 #88

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2015 #90

Stop at the 'not your business' part... TipTok Nov 2015 #98

Are grown men calling their mother "mommy" a sign of unconscious submission to matriarchy? EX500rider Nov 2015 #100

Good point Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #148

No. ismnotwasm Nov 2015 #101

My kids call me ATM randys1 Nov 2015 #102

Ha ha trumad Nov 2015 #117

I would call it a cultural attitude expressed in language nt Agnosticsherbet Nov 2015 #103

FFS.... ileus Nov 2015 #104

Yo mama! tularetom Nov 2015 #105

No erpowers Nov 2015 #107

Re Edit: I have kids, but neither refer to their father as "Daddy" when we talk about him... ScreamingMeemie Nov 2015 #109

Reagan called his wife "mommy" Matariki Nov 2015 #110

No. Whose narrative are you talking about? eom LiberalElite Nov 2015 #111

The underlying and unquestioned cultural narrative (eom) Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #175

???? LiberalElite Nov 2015 #176

Yes. Anything more affectionate than "sperm donor" is obeisance to the patriarchy Orrex Nov 2015 #113

I'm a 66 year old, childless woman. Vinca Nov 2015 #115

I'm a 66-year-old childless woman, too! Howdy! WinkyDink Nov 2015 #125

I trust you have no "daddy" issues either. LOL. Vinca Nov 2015 #139

My poppa was always and even after his death my "poppa". ladjf Nov 2015 #118

"I'm a guy and I know it's none of my business" 951-Riverside Nov 2015 #120

My Wife calls me Daddy... cherokeeprogressive Nov 2015 #122

What utter bilge. I'm as independent as Annie Oakley, and I called my late father "Daddy." WinkyDink Nov 2015 #124

Does anybody have any butter? I'm out. Initech Nov 2015 #126

Nope...not when it's their own father Chitown Kev Nov 2015 #127

I think, in order to eliminate all vestiges of the patriarchy that, in the future GoneOffShore Nov 2015 #128

No elleng Nov 2015 #129

No. nt LostOne4Ever Nov 2015 #131

Good job Kalidurga Nov 2015 #132

Lots of time on your hands eh? Katashi_itto Nov 2015 #133

People have no shortage of things to complain about do they? Initech Nov 2015 #200

My Daddy is 90. NOLALady Nov 2015 #134

I'm called daddy all the time Prism Nov 2015 #135

I've been calling him Daddy Aerows Nov 2015 #141

Could be. Kali Nov 2015 #145

i'm in my mid-30s and still call him daddy fizzgig Nov 2015 #146

I not saying everyone Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #149

I don't know. Chan790 Nov 2015 #151

Isn't that a Southern thing? I'm a Texan and I thought it was common and everyone did it. CTyankee Nov 2015 #153

I am 57 years old. I still say Mama and Daddy. ladyVet Nov 2015 #156

The proper term is "Parental Unit". kwassa Nov 2015 #158

A refreshing stance Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #166

My three adult daughters call me "Dad" SwissTony Nov 2015 #160

Okay, now you've done it. Adrahil Nov 2015 #214

There's a whole film on the subject SwissTony Nov 2015 #216

HE made me call him "otosama!" yuiyoshida Nov 2015 #161

HaHa <-Get it? Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #163

otosan is used for some one else's father yuiyoshida Nov 2015 #164

No. It is a sign of affection, not submission. mikehiggins Nov 2015 #165

I should have said in the OP Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #167

No, not "semi serious manner like a joke TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2015 #182

No, I don't think so. Zing Zing Zingbah Nov 2015 #170

"...I know it's none of my business..." Iggo Nov 2015 #174

Bingo. Aerows Nov 2015 #190

It's a personal preference loyalsister Nov 2015 #180

No I don't believe so but Drale Nov 2015 #181

I think it's cultural and familial. You use the word people around you use. nt pnwmom Nov 2015 #191

Well, LWolf Nov 2015 #198

. RandySF Nov 2015 #201

Mom. Mum. Mommy! alphafemale Nov 2015 #202

No. It's just a way of referring to one's father. cheapdate Nov 2015 #204

Who's your daddy? Person 2713 Nov 2015 #205

The Yankees Major Nikon Nov 2015 #211

If I had a nickle for every Mexican woman who called me papi... AngryAmish Nov 2015 #206

I'm more stunned by how many people are unaware that there are cultural differences at play. Blasphemer Nov 2015 #208

All three of us kids (two female, one male) called our daddy "Daddy"... countryjake Nov 2015 #209

Far from submission, I was Daddy's favorite because I would stand up to him. WillowTree Nov 2015 #212

Thank you for sharing Shankapotomus Nov 2015 #213

I truly think the exceptions are actually the rule. ScreamingMeemie Nov 2015 #215