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bpj62

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17. Childhood Cancers
Tue May 29, 2012, 12:26 PM
May 2012

As the parent of a 10 year old cancer survivor I can only say "there before the grace of god go I". My son has been lucky so far. He was diagnosed with Non Hodgkins Lymphoma at the age of 4 1/2 and he went through a one year treatment cycle and he just became a survivor in March of this year. I had many dark nights and thoughts surrounding the issue that these parents and thier son are going through and in the end it does really come down to the quality of life for the child and whether or not the treatment will extend thier life but take away thier ability to communicate or walk. At the age of nine I am pretty sure that Ryan knows exactly what will happen to him and I think he is at peace with it. letting go is the hardest thing to do but in the long run the only thing his parents can do is support him and let him know how much they love him. I hope that Ryans remaining months on this planet are filled will love and joy and that his pain will be minimized.

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It's a tough decision, but an extension of three months? PDJane May 2012 #1
Quite frankly, I'm appalled that his doctor would recommend this procedure at all. surrealAmerican May 2012 #23
I applaud his decision too... CaliforniaPeggy May 2012 #2
Brave little guy. marmar May 2012 #3
We have a 36 year old friend with cancer - she's getting blood transfusions every week GoneOffShore May 2012 #4
I totally support these parents and that child... Give him quality of life, for heaven's sakes. hlthe2b May 2012 #5
Can't blame him one bit. n/t ProfessionalLeftist May 2012 #6
He has fought the good fight. Are_grits_groceries May 2012 #7
Inhaled 3-bromopyruvate Th1onein May 2012 #8
For some people, sacrificing quality of life for a small amount Warpy May 2012 #9
I am so torn over this...he is only 9, does he understand the finality of this decision?? adigal May 2012 #10
If a miracle cure becomes available he could still try it KurtNYC May 2012 #14
I'm sure if he has been battling this for most of his life, he has seen many friends in the Fla Dem May 2012 #19
I bet he is wiser than his years. He is the one that will suffer. My best friend just said he wont rhett o rick May 2012 #29
Chemo can cure, but it is life sucking adigal May 2012 #32
There is such a thing as quality of life......... Smilo May 2012 #11
loving people will understand librechik May 2012 #12
Sometimes a sick child CAN know what's best for them SoCalDem May 2012 #13
an amazing son and an amazing story KurtNYC May 2012 #15
My Dad said nuts to extending his time via radiation and chemo too. Archae May 2012 #16
Childhood Cancers bpj62 May 2012 #17
Just so sad. I cannot imagine the pain of saying goodbye to my child adigal May 2012 #33
Heartbreaking. There are tears in my eyes (nt) Nye Bevan May 2012 #18
Please! Jesus Christ on a trailer hitch please! let the fundies leave this family alone riderinthestorm May 2012 #20
He's not a vegetable or a fetus pstokely May 2012 #22
A very brave young man, and a mother who obviously loves her child very much. May he have wonderful NotThisTime May 2012 #21
I can completely understand him not wanting to be a vegetable. Initech May 2012 #24
K&R for this brave boy. nt TBF May 2012 #25
He died on Saturday. But he did make it to his kas125 May 2012 #26
I completely respect his decision, and understand why he made it. Butterbean May 2012 #27
I know how you feel. My youngest kid, who is 21 and lives with his girlfriend kas125 May 2012 #28
and let him ManyShadesOf May 2012 #30
my good friend's husband just died of brain cancer. He held on a good long time but CTyankee May 2012 #31
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