(In my best deep South accent) Ah am a delicate flower and some words offend me deeply.

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16. I'm not rationalizing a thing.

Simply stating the way things are for me. Incivility in itself is not a quantifiable thing.

That was the intention of the OP. What might hurt another in the form of words, might also be stated without offending a majority of readers as in the reader can always put the book down.

As silly as it is, I recently lost all and was nearly killed in a fire and now even the word sends to a dark place and seeing a film or newscast gives me anxiety. I would never expect others to temper their conversation both verbal and written to my certain peccadillo.

There are times when victimization gets out of hand and the victims make a mini "poor me" out of their experiences. I am a very empathetic person, but I can also be a realist. Shit happens and oft times it's terrible and unbearable shit. But we move on, placing one foot in front of the other hoping to eventually put those things behind us.

But when your or my experience flows over into trying to shame others...

I have the tee shirt and won nasty prizes. I don't give those things any impetus to my ability to read things that make me uncomfortable. I get over it and acknowledge that, thank god, not everyone has had the same experiences I have.