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lunatica

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39. After being married for years I found out my husband was a racist republican
Mon Dec 28, 2015, 03:25 PM
Dec 2015

It gave me one more reason for a divorce. Although I can tolerate some republicans, I have no room whatsoever for racists in my life. I think they're disgusting low lives.

So you're daughter may find herself in my position. At which time divorce may be a blessing.

In my small experience, common values are necessary for a successful relationship. Scuba Dec 2015 #1
I agree. In a few years she'll be squirming while he's trying to get a busboy or waiter fired. FSogol Dec 2015 #2
Ditto, this WILL NOT WORK. tell her to wait! ViseGrip Dec 2015 #3
Doubt that would help... better she found out now and can find a better match. InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2015 #55
Not all of them though... TipTok Dec 2015 #12
Values are not the same as tastes, interest and such. Scuba Dec 2015 #13
I agree with Scuba. Arugula Latte Dec 2015 #32
Yes, differing core values is a huge obstacle in marriage. onecaliberal Dec 2015 #33
I agree. But, my parents are on opposite ends of the fence and rarely to never discussed politics. vaberella Dec 2015 #50
The bad part is that RW views go beyond just "discussing" politics. darkangel218 Dec 2015 #4
True that. Turbineguy Dec 2015 #8
This didn't come up before they got engaged? Oof. Brickbat Dec 2015 #5
Good point exboyfil Dec 2015 #9
That was my first thought DebbieCDC Dec 2015 #35
My thought exactly. How do you get so close to each other that that you becoame engaged Fla Dem Dec 2015 #40
In my experience in these cases, more times than not the female converts to conservatism. MohRokTah Dec 2015 #6
My female cousin married a winger. (libertarian type) arely staircase Dec 2015 #25
YUP. HughBeaumont Dec 2015 #29
My husband was a Rush fan when I met him but we never discussed politics. rainy Dec 2015 #7
I hate to admit it but I was a Limbaugh exboyfil Dec 2015 #11
What about the 2000 election did you find compelling enough to change your stripes? Nt JudyM Dec 2015 #26
Jeb and the Florida fix exboyfil Dec 2015 #31
It's cool that instead of just resigning to be a disaffected Republican you switched teams entirely JudyM Dec 2015 #45
How long have they known each other? Snobblevitch Dec 2015 #10
I don't think it will work. Manifestor_of_Light Dec 2015 #14
how does he feel about her body her choice, women working ? saturnsring Dec 2015 #15
I assume he is ok with wive's working exboyfil Dec 2015 #21
I have two daughters. panader0 Dec 2015 #16
I don't think she should bite her tongue. She needs to know how he will treat her in the future. lostnfound Dec 2015 #17
I agree. I think it's hard to believe WhiteTara Dec 2015 #28
I have known couples still together in their 60s and 70s that are political mixed marriages karynnj Dec 2015 #18
People believe what they believe bigwillq Dec 2015 #19
I know there are many conservatives who on the personal level are nice enough Douglas Carpenter Dec 2015 #20
My nephew describes himself as a moderate conservative Matariki Dec 2015 #22
My niece married a guy like that. Lovely man, Republican because his parents were.... Hekate Dec 2015 #27
Sorry, But I had to Laugh itcfish Dec 2015 #38
Weeeellll, it could work. I just know that by the time 1968 was over, I knew I couldn't... Hekate Dec 2015 #23
Maybe most important is for her to learn what this conservative jwirr Dec 2015 #24
Ecccccccch. HughBeaumont Dec 2015 #30
Tell her to run now malaise Dec 2015 #34
Let's not be so negative itcfish Dec 2015 #36
Best wishes to both of them, and you. NCTraveler Dec 2015 #37
After being married for years I found out my husband was a racist republican lunatica Dec 2015 #39
My formerly apolitical ex got brainwashed by FOX and hate radio. Kath1 Dec 2015 #60
It doesn't matter. Love has a way of sweeping little things like politics aside. Inkfreak Dec 2015 #41
i would NEVER NEVER marry a man who was not a democrat and liberal trueblue2007 Dec 2015 #42
I married a politically conservative evangelical. It was rough when we were younger but GreenPartyVoter Dec 2015 #43
The more important question is how do they handle disagreements? LeftyMom Dec 2015 #44
My primary concern is that he's her first relationship. I hope they give this time. lindysalsagal Dec 2015 #46
I was pretty clueless in a lot of ways in my early 20s. GreenEyedLefty Dec 2015 #47
While she follows your advice, don't you do the same. Ask him hard questions in front of her. L. Coyote Dec 2015 #48
I support this advice. I know if it was me, I would take it seriously. n/t vaberella Dec 2015 #53
tell her to run Skittles Dec 2015 #49
Good advice. Buzz Clik Dec 2015 #51
I would say your daughter and her fiance should do those pre-marriage counseling things. vaberella Dec 2015 #52
Signed up for January exboyfil Dec 2015 #54
Oh good. That should help a lot. vaberella Dec 2015 #57
You know, my ex changed during the marriage. Laffy Kat Dec 2015 #56
If it would have been up to me to choose my offsprings' significant others tularetom Dec 2015 #58
For what it is worth, my experience is BillZBubb Dec 2015 #59
The problem is that a conservative political bent is often accompanied pnwmom Dec 2015 #61
If they really love each other then they will find a way. And isn't there a saying that totodeinhere Dec 2015 #62
Crazy. PowerToThePeople Dec 2015 #63
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