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78. Very much a thing

Tue Jan 19, 2016, 05:45 PM

Jan 2016

I had a friend years ago who didn't see anything wrong with wanting to sleep with 14-15 year old boys. As far as I know he never acted on it and never would, but I had the longest, most frustrating conversations with him. He was convinced that it was fine since when he was that age, he wanted an older man to have sex with him. Nothing I said about consent, sexual development, or emotional and psychological harm really sank in with him. He was convinced it was love and that "initiating a teenager into adulthood in a loving manner" (barf) was actually a moral good.

I still encounter him once in awhile through acquaintances, and last I saw he had married a man who was very, very, very young looking. Legal and all that, but it still creeped me out. I know this is technically ephebophilia, but the rationalizations he presented were mortifying.

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Why are there so many pedophiles? [View all] leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 OP

I think they are wired wrong. redwitch Jan 2016 #1

You're going to pull 4 percent of the male population out of society and keep them there? KamaAina Jan 2016 #2

What percentage of the population is tolerable to be victimized by pedophiles? Nuclear Unicorn Jan 2016 #25

We already have far too many people in prison. KamaAina Jan 2016 #26

I'm not worried about prisons being too crowded with peophiles. Nuclear Unicorn Jan 2016 #28

One possible alternative is "chemical castration". KamaAina Jan 2016 #30

Easy to get testosterone shots safeinOhio Jan 2016 #34

Yup Truprogressive85 Jan 2016 #66

Apparently there are quite a few female pedophiles too Ex Lurker Jan 2016 #41

Attraction to teenagers is not pedophilia KamaAina Jan 2016 #43

eventually they pull themselves... JanMichael Jan 2016 #84

Police: 3-year-old girl kept in closet, offered for sex KamaAina Jan 2016 #3

Wasn't that unbelievable? leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #23

No one seems to be answering your question so I will give it jwirr Jan 2016 #39

We should not call the activities of pedophiles... 3catwoman3 Jan 2016 #67

Is that a pedophile. Or just psychopath? leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #72

I wonder if there are more now or we just hear about them more. femmocrat Jan 2016 #4

Columbus made money selling 9-year-old native girls for sex. arcane1 Jan 2016 #6

I wasn't thinking that far back, as social mores were much different. femmocrat Jan 2016 #20

Killing all the Midianites except for the "women children" for example. arcane1 Jan 2016 #32

The latter (nt) jeff47 Jan 2016 #7

It wasn't publicized... Human101948 Jan 2016 #9

Some people are born that way. Who knows why. linuxman Jan 2016 #5

They are wired differently zipplewrath Jan 2016 #8

Oh, really. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #14

More than that zipplewrath Jan 2016 #21

Textbooks on Latin grammar by Aelius Donatus? LanternWaste Jan 2016 #61

Not with movable type. zipplewrath Jan 2016 #62

Sexual behavior has many expressions, right and wrong a wide range HereSince1628 Jan 2016 #37

I wonder how many there are that just never act leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #10

The strict laws against child porn are based on the harm to the "actresses". KamaAina Jan 2016 #13

I wonder if there have been studies about whether leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #17

Me too. nt femmocrat Jan 2016 #22

No, and they can't really be done. jeff47 Jan 2016 #31

The Supreme Court has ruled animated porn is legal CommonSenseDemocrat Jan 2016 #51

Depends on the porn. jeff47 Jan 2016 #16

I read what a disgraced priest said once that shocked me: Peregrine Took Jan 2016 #11

Ya. I think they come up with excuses like that. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #15

Lol. So he just decided he thought some of them were gay. Calista241 Jan 2016 #19

Very much a thing Prism Jan 2016 #78

On causes jeff47 Jan 2016 #12

Being a victim of child abuse of any kind can be related to jwirr Jan 2016 #46

This is - ruffburr Jan 2016 #18

What causes any sexual attraction? The2ndWheel Jan 2016 #24

The 4% sounds like bull crap. Oneironaut Jan 2016 #27

"Fear of pedophiles is mostly hysteria." Wtf? JudyM Jan 2016 #36

My fears there are a lot more of them out leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #49

I know too many women who were sexually molested as children. JudyM Jan 2016 #53

Well, exactly. The legions of women who have been sexually molested as Nay Jan 2016 #76

My landlord molested his daughter, stepdaughter and sorefeet Jan 2016 #85

Most americans are afraid of their own shadow Facility Inspector Jan 2016 #55

Creative, though unsupported allegations LanternWaste Jan 2016 #64

This is just a website Facility Inspector Jan 2016 #81

So the pedophilia reports are overstated, in your opinion? JudyM Jan 2016 #69

Ok - then we agree? Oneironaut Jan 2016 #65

Um, no. I restated it with a wtf. Not even close to agreement. JudyM Jan 2016 #68

Nope - I said people shouldn't live their lives in fear of pedophiles. Oneironaut Jan 2016 #70

You don't get the point. Nt JudyM Jan 2016 #73

for some the list is easy to go on and impossible to get off dembotoz Jan 2016 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author LiberalArkie Jan 2016 #33

Read an article Delphinus Jan 2016 #82

This message was self-deleted by its author LiberalArkie Jan 2016 #83

Arrested development. Koch Ebola Jan 2016 #35

Arrested developement or an advanced state of acquired habits? HereSince1628 Jan 2016 #38

there are actually quite a few hfojvt Jan 2016 #47

How do we stop it? Great question. I have known 4 pedophiles. jwirr Jan 2016 #58

"It's a real problem everywhere." It's a constellation of problems leftyladyfrommo. It's evil. K&R. bobthedrummer Jan 2016 #40

Interesting question. Neon Gods Jan 2016 #42

4% of the male population is awfully high. I need a reference for that. Yavin4 Jan 2016 #44

must interject--rape is not about sex, it's about power librechik Jan 2016 #45

I worked with sex offenders when I was a CO/counselor Blue_In_AK Jan 2016 #48

Very interesting and profound point CommonSenseDemocrat Jan 2016 #52

Just my opinion leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #54

It is also about sexual gratification. With easy prey. Nt JudyM Jan 2016 #74

Sorry, I don't CommonSenseDemocrat Jan 2016 #50

If there was a way to identify them. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #56

It's a family issue loyalsister Jan 2016 #57

What an interesting article. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #60

I got the 4 percent figure leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #59

I have trouble believing that it's anything like 4%. That seems insanely high. Warren DeMontague Jan 2016 #79

Right-handed, shorter than average, ten-point-IQ-lower-than-norm men. LanternWaste Jan 2016 #63

That's a great article. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #71

Thanks for posting this. Nt JudyM Jan 2016 #75

... significantly more likely not to be right-handed (i.e. they�re left-handed or ambidextrous). n/t ebayfool Jan 2016 #80

MUST Watch! Conspiracy of Silence..... (Discovery channel doc pulled at last minute) ghostsinthemachine Jan 2016 #77

Here are some interesting statistics on child molesters. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2016 #86