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Behind the Aegis

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16. I have to say I am very confused.
Wed Jan 20, 2016, 02:03 AM
Jan 2016

I have read the other comments and I am still not sure what is being asked. So, I am going to answer the best I know how. You know me well enough to steer me back if I am wondering in the wrong pasture.

What I seeing is a confusion of terms. Hetero-, homo-, and bi- are forms of sexuality. They are determined by the person's desire for the other, same, or both sexes. The key word is "desire". Is it possible someone who is asexual has sexual cravings? Sure. Sexual cravings aren't necessarily the same as "desire", it is more of a "biological need" than an "emotional want". I don't see "asexuality" as a true sexual orientation anymore than I see "atheism" as a religion. But, I understand why both are grouped with their various segments. Does that make sense? Therefore, based on my muddled understanding, if someone has sexual attractions, it will determine an orientation. If they have none, then the person is "asexual." Sexual orientation is made up of more than attraction and physical desire, which is why more people are now realizing they may have bisexual proclivities. The physical act may be nothing more than a biological need, an itch that needs scratching; nothing more.

I guess I would say the person is likely an anomaly and the situation is rare. There are certainly people who are defined as hetero-, homo-, bi-, sexual who aren't very interested in sex, but if they identify themselves with a sexual orientation, then they likely do have some type of range of being attracted to peoples, they may not act on it though.

Was I even close? Where should I post my vote.

(PS...sorry I never responded to your remarks in the other thread on bisexuality. I got distracted...no! not that way. )

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How and why would someone have sex with "someone that they don't find attractive"? darkangel218 Jan 2016 #1
It a reference to a thing called cupiosexuality. LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #3
when you say attractive Skittles Jan 2016 #2
Yes, exactly. nt LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #4
People have sex with other people for reasons other than attractiveness all of the time Yavin4 Jan 2016 #5
OP was referring to people who apparently don't find anyone* attractive, yet they desire sex darkangel218 Jan 2016 #6
Do they find certain people unattractive? prayin4rain Jan 2016 #7
According to them they don't find anyone sexually attractive. Ever. But desire sex. nt LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #8
I can see a person prayin4rain Jan 2016 #9
I mean, rare. .. not, not possible. n/t prayin4rain Jan 2016 #10
It is fine I got what you mean THANK YOU for posting very much!!! nt LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #11
Can you define asexual? beam me up scottie Jan 2016 #12
For this thread-Asexual: A person who does not have the potential to experience sexual attraction LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #13
I would say it's rare. beam me up scottie Jan 2016 #14
Other... Donkees Jan 2016 #15
I have to say I am very confused. Behind the Aegis Jan 2016 #16
It is a confused question, and I am sorry for that. LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #17
You're probably talking about someone LuvNewcastle Jan 2016 #18
To me this is all about 'attractiveness' and nothing else and it reminds me of When Harry Met Sally Stellar Jan 2016 #19
Its kind of like masturbation where the other person is merely an instrument of orgasm. aikoaiko Jan 2016 #20
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