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[noamnety]

182. Your second paragraph is troubling to me.

Correct me if I'm wrong - but you seem to be saying: I'm a bit sorry I said some hurtful stuff - but I'm more sorry it made my friends look bad.

I wish you saw using antisemitic hate speech as the bigger offense, rather making your friends look bad.

I wish your apology didn't dance around that what you wrote was horribly antisemitic and bigoted.

I wish your apology didn't whitewash your hate speech by letting people infer what you did was simply use some mean words. I don't know if you realized that in your apology you haven't actually acknowledged what the problem was.

It's like when a spouse cheats and gets caught - and then says "I'm sorry I did something that hurt you" - but can't actually say the words "I'm sorry I've been cheating on you." It's a way of minimizing the offense and not really coming to terms with it. And the fact that they only apologize after they're caught ... makes it seem not so sincere.

In other words - I can believe you accidentally let down your guard or filter in the heat of anger, and let something slip out that you didn't mean to reveal. But I don't understand why, when your anger cooled off, you apparently let the post sit for a week and didn't go back and apologize there for it or anywhere else until you were called out for it.