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[Betty Karlson]

15. That is borderline-sexist: as if guys will go for prostitutes for their first experience

unless they can "pressure" someone for free.

Believe it or not, but unless your culture is ridden with some heteronormative "guys must have their first experience with a woman at 18" nonsense, most guys will

a) wait until they have figured whether or not they want their first experience to be with a woman at all

b) refuse to BE pressured (and yes: there are plenty of reasons for a guy to not feel ready)

c) responsably plan the first experience, possibly together with the girl or guy they want their first experience with

d) not pressure women (or men). period.


And most guys will not use prostitutes either - certainly not at a young age- for pretty much the same reasons that most guys don't want to BE prostitutes. In a culture that doesn't put shame on sex, sex is considered consensual fun. Like most consensual fun, guys want it to be a mutual and free pleasure. Amazingly: most girls feel the same.