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lumberjack_jeff

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6. Much of human behavior is hardwired.

Tue Apr 19, 2016, 02:28 PM

Apr 2016

My son has high functioning autism, and through lots of work, ("look at my nose"... "look at my eyebrows&quot he now has a pretty good handle on eye contact. At one time he couldn't do it at all, and then only while holding a hand over one eye, and now it comes almost naturally.

And it's important too... neuotypical folks take it for granted, but we subconsicously appraise the frame of mind of the people we're talking to by looking at their faces - centered on their eyes. Learning to interpret people's emotional state is an important factor social interaction and personal success.

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My Inability To Make Eye Contact Does Not Need To Be �Fixed� [View all] HuckleB Apr 2016 OP

Males, for the most part, ronnie624 Apr 2016 #1

Because eye contact = sexual attraction? That doesn't make sense. closeupready Apr 2016 #15

To me it is more about domination more so than sexual attraction Victor_c3 Apr 2016 #16

No, I think that makes a kind of sense, thanks. closeupready Apr 2016 #18

You really think so? GulfCoast66 Apr 2016 #24

Well you know how this board is - not you, but lots of argumentative types closeupready Apr 2016 #25

So... GulfCoast66 Apr 2016 #28

+1 HuckleB Apr 2016 #22

Why would you "+1" such a foolish comment? ronnie624 Apr 2016 #37

Keep digging. HuckleB Apr 2016 #39

Aww, did I hurt a he-man's fee fees? ronnie624 Apr 2016 #43

Nice shovel. HuckleB Apr 2016 #44

Thanks, I brought it just for you. n/t ronnie624 Apr 2016 #45

Where on earth are you getting that? Marr Apr 2016 #47

Just an observation. ronnie624 Apr 2016 #51

I've never noticed such a thing myself, but assuming such a trend exists, I think Marr Apr 2016 #53

I think it is the time period of males feeling that way Jim Beard Apr 2016 #54

Familiarity provides reassurances. n/t ronnie624 Apr 2016 #56

I used to have a problem with eye contact awoke_in_2003 Apr 2016 #35

Good for you. ronnie624 Apr 2016 #38

I am just coming from the male perspective awoke_in_2003 Apr 2016 #41

What? HuckleB Apr 2016 #42

Most of them are not strong and heroic. ronnie624 Apr 2016 #46

Been there too! Jim Beard Apr 2016 #55

Like dogs, humans are an eye-dominance species, so direct eye contact between males tblue37 Apr 2016 #49

Thank you for sharing. Kittycat Apr 2016 #2

Absolutely. I'd love to see more of things like this at DU. HuckleB Apr 2016 #5

We have our own group. KamaAina Apr 2016 #9

Kama...please correct me if I am wrong but...... clarice Apr 2016 #11

Quite possibly. Hence "geev'um stink eye" in Hawai'i. KamaAina Apr 2016 #13

as is using the left hand to eat Demonaut Apr 2016 #20

Probably with out a greeting of some type to accompany the "stare" Jim Beard Apr 2016 #57

Cool. Still, it's good to get things in the general discussion areas, too. HuckleB Apr 2016 #14

It turned out to be an advantage in Hawai'i KamaAina Apr 2016 #3

I'm neurotypical and hate being touched by strangers REP Apr 2016 #4

One of my friends calls me Mr. No Hug. Hassin Bin Sober Apr 2016 #17

It's okay with those very close to me ... REP Apr 2016 #23

Much of human behavior is hardwired. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2016 #6

I've seen people who look in my general direction while communicating Quantess Apr 2016 #7

What does your last comment have to do with the OP? HuckleB Apr 2016 #8

I have poor hearing, so I have to lip read DavidDvorkin Apr 2016 #10

Personally I don't do it Blue_Tires Apr 2016 #12

Umm. Ok. HuckleB Apr 2016 #21

What I'm trying to say is Blue_Tires Apr 2016 #59

to the few that this afflicts..I'm sorry..to the rest who have nefarious intentions Demonaut Apr 2016 #19

If I'm comfortable with someone, feel secure - they won't "turn" on me, etc. I can look them Peregrine Took Apr 2016 #26

yes Elmer S. E. Dump Apr 2016 #27

thank you DonCoquixote Apr 2016 #29

Eye contact is rude Mike__M Apr 2016 #30

People with social anxiety leftyladyfrommo Apr 2016 #31

It is hard. HuckleB Apr 2016 #36

That's how I was as a kid. Making eye contact was intensely unpleasant for me. Marr Apr 2016 #50

Speech-language pathologist here. phylny Apr 2016 #32

Thank you for opening my eyes GulfCoast66 Apr 2016 #33

I had a manager at the JCP salon I worked at who put a big mirror up on the wall above her desk. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2016 #34

I am left-handed, at one time I would have been beaten until I learned to use my right-hand. Rex Apr 2016 #40

As someone who's autistic, it can be hard for me too sakabatou Apr 2016 #48

+1,000... 000 HuckleB Apr 2016 #52

Its hard for me being the grandfather of an almost non verbal child. Jim Beard Apr 2016 #58