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GulfCoast66

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33. Thank you for opening my eyes

Tue Apr 19, 2016, 10:20 PM

Apr 2016

I was always taught to look someone in the eyes when talking to them. Not to stare them down, but my Father and I would continually make and break eye contact when talking and that, I guess, is what I considered normal. And I do not say this to hurt anyone, but I was taught to be wary of those who would not look me in the eye. Apparently, I was wrong and looking folks in the eye is not something everyone can easily do. I have travelled enough to realize that there are cultures where looking folks in the eye is rude. I do research before travelling to a new country to minimize the chance I will offend.

I have only been a member here for a short time and have only been reading for a couple of years. I regret I did not find this site sooner as the most valuable things I have learned are really not political.

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My Inability To Make Eye Contact Does Not Need To Be �Fixed� [View all] HuckleB Apr 2016 OP

Males, for the most part, ronnie624 Apr 2016 #1

Because eye contact = sexual attraction? That doesn't make sense. closeupready Apr 2016 #15

To me it is more about domination more so than sexual attraction Victor_c3 Apr 2016 #16

No, I think that makes a kind of sense, thanks. closeupready Apr 2016 #18

You really think so? GulfCoast66 Apr 2016 #24

Well you know how this board is - not you, but lots of argumentative types closeupready Apr 2016 #25

So... GulfCoast66 Apr 2016 #28

+1 HuckleB Apr 2016 #22

Why would you "+1" such a foolish comment? ronnie624 Apr 2016 #37

Keep digging. HuckleB Apr 2016 #39

Aww, did I hurt a he-man's fee fees? ronnie624 Apr 2016 #43

Nice shovel. HuckleB Apr 2016 #44

Thanks, I brought it just for you. n/t ronnie624 Apr 2016 #45

Where on earth are you getting that? Marr Apr 2016 #47

Just an observation. ronnie624 Apr 2016 #51

I've never noticed such a thing myself, but assuming such a trend exists, I think Marr Apr 2016 #53

I think it is the time period of males feeling that way Jim Beard Apr 2016 #54

Familiarity provides reassurances. n/t ronnie624 Apr 2016 #56

I used to have a problem with eye contact awoke_in_2003 Apr 2016 #35

Good for you. ronnie624 Apr 2016 #38

I am just coming from the male perspective awoke_in_2003 Apr 2016 #41

What? HuckleB Apr 2016 #42

Most of them are not strong and heroic. ronnie624 Apr 2016 #46

Been there too! Jim Beard Apr 2016 #55

Like dogs, humans are an eye-dominance species, so direct eye contact between males tblue37 Apr 2016 #49

Thank you for sharing. Kittycat Apr 2016 #2

Absolutely. I'd love to see more of things like this at DU. HuckleB Apr 2016 #5

We have our own group. KamaAina Apr 2016 #9

Kama...please correct me if I am wrong but...... clarice Apr 2016 #11

Quite possibly. Hence "geev'um stink eye" in Hawai'i. KamaAina Apr 2016 #13

as is using the left hand to eat Demonaut Apr 2016 #20

Probably with out a greeting of some type to accompany the "stare" Jim Beard Apr 2016 #57

Cool. Still, it's good to get things in the general discussion areas, too. HuckleB Apr 2016 #14

It turned out to be an advantage in Hawai'i KamaAina Apr 2016 #3

I'm neurotypical and hate being touched by strangers REP Apr 2016 #4

One of my friends calls me Mr. No Hug. Hassin Bin Sober Apr 2016 #17

It's okay with those very close to me ... REP Apr 2016 #23

Much of human behavior is hardwired. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2016 #6

I've seen people who look in my general direction while communicating Quantess Apr 2016 #7

What does your last comment have to do with the OP? HuckleB Apr 2016 #8

I have poor hearing, so I have to lip read DavidDvorkin Apr 2016 #10

Personally I don't do it Blue_Tires Apr 2016 #12

Umm. Ok. HuckleB Apr 2016 #21

What I'm trying to say is Blue_Tires Apr 2016 #59

to the few that this afflicts..I'm sorry..to the rest who have nefarious intentions Demonaut Apr 2016 #19

If I'm comfortable with someone, feel secure - they won't "turn" on me, etc. I can look them Peregrine Took Apr 2016 #26

yes Elmer S. E. Dump Apr 2016 #27

thank you DonCoquixote Apr 2016 #29

Eye contact is rude Mike__M Apr 2016 #30

People with social anxiety leftyladyfrommo Apr 2016 #31

It is hard. HuckleB Apr 2016 #36

That's how I was as a kid. Making eye contact was intensely unpleasant for me. Marr Apr 2016 #50

Speech-language pathologist here. phylny Apr 2016 #32

Thank you for opening my eyes GulfCoast66 Apr 2016 #33

I had a manager at the JCP salon I worked at who put a big mirror up on the wall above her desk. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2016 #34

I am left-handed, at one time I would have been beaten until I learned to use my right-hand. Rex Apr 2016 #40

As someone who's autistic, it can be hard for me too sakabatou Apr 2016 #48

+1,000... 000 HuckleB Apr 2016 #52

Its hard for me being the grandfather of an almost non verbal child. Jim Beard Apr 2016 #58