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50. The second (1 bathrooom that anyone can use)

Wed Apr 27, 2016, 04:15 PM

Apr 2016

I confess that the entire issue confuses me then.

I keep reading about it as an LGBT issue, but I presume that lesbians have no concerns with using a female-only restroom, and gay men similarly have no trouble using a male-only restroom (and the same for bisexuals). So rather than an LGBT issue (except as a community support thing), it's really a T issue.

My assumption was just what you're saying (that most trans would have no trouble using a restroom with men and/or women), and thus should be comfortable with the current structure.

The only thing I can think is perhaps it's offensive to walk into a room that says that it's only for people of a gender that you don't consider yourself. Is that it?

Please forgive any ignorance. I have just about zero experience with the issue. My preference is not to share an adjoining stall with anyone. So single-person restrooms would be my preference

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"I�m the father of a 21 year old daughter. There are lots of things I worry about." [View all] kpete Apr 2016 OP

I agree with your post but want to add that some women, supportive of trans-women and rhett o rick Apr 2016 #1

I have a 4 year old granddaughter moonbabygo Apr 2016 #2

I understand. It's not an easy issue. nm rhett o rick Apr 2016 #4

100 times more likely it would safeinOhio Apr 2016 #5

it only needs to happen once moonbabygo Apr 2016 #6

I don't know any mothers that safeinOhio Apr 2016 #8

I would never do it moonbabygo Apr 2016 #10

If you would never do it, then why are you publicly worrying about it? hatrack Apr 2016 #11

if my writings came out that I am personally worried moonbabygo Apr 2016 #12

Your very first post brought your granddaughter into the discussion - sounds personal to me hatrack Apr 2016 #14

that was in response to the post above nt moonbabygo Apr 2016 #16

Jared Fogle safeinOhio Apr 2016 #13

The absolute LAST place to do that..... A HERETIC I AM Apr 2016 #43

It has happened... onpatrol98 Apr 2016 #48

Wrestling coaches. Don't forget wrestling coaches. HubertHeaver Apr 2016 #54

"Wrestling coaches" beergood Apr 2016 #79

Children are more at risk by family or family friends then they are random strangers. Lancero Apr 2016 #61

Don't let your 4 yr old go to a public restroom alone... Human101948 Apr 2016 #78

Thread winner! Dont call me Shirley Apr 2016 #56

So what's your solution? MillennialDem Apr 2016 #15

my solution to what exactly nt moonbabygo Apr 2016 #20

Transgender bathroom usage. MillennialDem Apr 2016 #26

Is this a trick question? moonbabygo Apr 2016 #27

All I was asking is what was your current solution. Whether it was perfect or not. MillennialDem Apr 2016 #32

Setting the politics aside... allow me to ask a question FBaggins Apr 2016 #47

I'm trans and are you asking - 3 bathrooms (male, female, co-ed) or 1 bathroom (anyone can use) MillennialDem Apr 2016 #49

The second (1 bathrooom that anyone can use) FBaggins Apr 2016 #50

Response MillennialDem Apr 2016 #51

Ah! Well... you learn something new every day. Thanks! FBaggins Apr 2016 #82

Google this term MillennialDem Apr 2016 #83

"So single-person restrooms would be my preference" beergood Apr 2016 #81

Since it isn't a problem, it doesn't need a solution. eridani Apr 2016 #63

I think we should have computerized genital inspections at every public restroom. puffy socks Apr 2016 #36

This message was self-deleted by its author Matt_R Apr 2016 #66

would beergood Apr 2016 #80

It's a tough one all right. But trans people can't carry the transgressions of "straight" men. nolabear Apr 2016 #18

You let mercuryblues Apr 2016 #22

ya all the time nt moonbabygo Apr 2016 #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Matt_R Apr 2016 #69

Is someone laughing moonbabygo Apr 2016 #70

This message was self-deleted by its author Matt_R Apr 2016 #84

so moonbabygo Apr 2016 #85

This message was self-deleted by its author Matt_R Apr 2016 #87

Then I would assert gratuitous Apr 2016 #28

correct nt moonbabygo Apr 2016 #29

How does a person have more access to little girls posing as a trans person in a bathroom? puffy socks Apr 2016 #30

yes their parents "should" be with them moonbabygo Apr 2016 #33

Parents "should" be True that happens all too often, but that would also be true then anywhere puffy socks Apr 2016 #34

beats me moonbabygo Apr 2016 #35

How many faux transgeneder pedophiles have been arrested thus far? puffy socks Apr 2016 #37

I think if we did we would know about moonbabygo Apr 2016 #38

+1 mercuryblues Apr 2016 #52

Not me... at least not a restroom FBaggins Apr 2016 #46

I have a 4 year old granddaughter and I trust her parents to escort her in public restrooms. n/t fasttense Apr 2016 #68

Name one instance of this ever happening. alarimer Apr 2016 #86

you are listening to rightwing trash Skittles Apr 2016 #88

I think those same creeps would have been trying those stunts all along. trotsky Apr 2016 #9

Yes they certainly would have by now farleftlib Apr 2016 #17

Transfolk have been around you for a long time - never a problem. Elmer S. E. Dump Apr 2016 #25

So right! maddiemom Apr 2016 #39

My scalp is bleeding from all the head scratching! Elmer S. E. Dump Apr 2016 #41

How easy is it to fake? treestar Apr 2016 #53

What's your point? nm rhett o rick Apr 2016 #58

The claim about how assaulters will pretend to be trans treestar Apr 2016 #59

I am conveying concerns from women I've spoken to. Granted it's a small sample but rhett o rick Apr 2016 #62

no they don't, they are just right wingers treestar Apr 2016 #64

A guy did dress as a woman to spy on and film women in a women's restroom: Nye Bevan Apr 2016 #67

Yes Soxfan58 Apr 2016 #65

Trans people have always been able to use the bathroom they identify with, liberalnarb Apr 2016 #71

I agree and understand. There may be no reason for women to be concerned rhett o rick Apr 2016 #72

what a crock of shit concern. people these days have become really good as passing off their bigotry La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2016 #73

Who's bigotry are you referring to? rhett o rick Apr 2016 #74

bigotry towards trans people. La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2016 #75

I am a male and agree with your concerns about the bigotry involved here, but rhett o rick Apr 2016 #76

you could point out the flaws in her logic, but IMO if they don't change their mind La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2016 #77

well 21 is not a child nt moonbabygo Apr 2016 #3

I assume he means when his daughter was at a "vulnerable" age---and he is still her father. maddiemom Apr 2016 #40

I was a sergeant when I was 21 Skittles Apr 2016 #57

K&R. nt UtahLib Apr 2016 #7

So, what poses a bigger threat? world wide wally Apr 2016 #19

Dennis Hastert of course moonbabygo Apr 2016 #21

For those offended by transgender people in the restroom, I suggest .... Scuba Apr 2016 #24

^^^This!^^^^ LuckyLib Apr 2016 #45

a funny vid beergood Apr 2016 #31

ROFL! Elmer S. E. Dump Apr 2016 #42

As a father to two girls I completely agree with you Victor_c3 Apr 2016 #44

K & R !!! Thespian2 Apr 2016 #55

BINGO! Iwillnevergiveup Apr 2016 #60