Psychologists explain Trump: He's literally a narcissistic psychopath

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22. Thanks. Funny thing is

he dumped me. Left me with 4 kids. All because I dared disagree with him once. I became the 'enemy'. Those were his words. "You don't support me anymore so you might as well be my enemy."

Found out later he had been cheating for years. Led a double life. I was lucky he dumped me.

I had a dysfunctional upbringing (narcissistic co-dependent parents) and so did not see the obvious red flags. Believed everything he told me. Truly believed everything he said with my heart and soul. Apparently this is a typical coping mechanism for kids of narcissistic/sociopathic parents where there is abuse. You either trust everyone, all of the time, or you trust no one, ever. A child's mind has to take one path or the other if they have no guidance on a healthy way to decipher dysfunctional behavior. That's what the same psychologist told me anyway. I thought he was rescuing me. He wasn't physically abusive, and most of the time he treated me well, but obviously leading a double life/cheating is not being well treated. There were mind games, emotional abuse and other things in retrospect, but I was used to that due to my upbringing - my life with him was better than my home life by far. It was still awful though compared to how I should have been treated. I know that now.

Anyway, yes, lucky to get out but still deal with him on a regular basis due to the kids. He behaves relatively well now because I've called him out on it. Generally, like any bully, if you meet their behavior with the same, they will back down. Plus, I've heard through his mother (who is 100% on my side on this, sociopathy runs in the male side of her family so she understands what is going on) that he 'chose' me because he knew I'd be a good mother, and he doesn't want to piss me off so much that I would hate the kids. Like I would EVER! but because that is what he would do if he was in my position, he assumes that's what I would do as well. He just can't even imagine what someone with empathy and love really thinks, YK?