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44. If she was ill and in so much pain

Tue May 17, 2016, 11:31 PM

May 2016

she might have been a good candidate for hospice. They would have been able to control the pain.
Lots of unknowns here... Did husband discuss their lack of funds with her doctor? There are agencies that provide assistance.
Was husbands mental stability such that he could care for the wife or should someone in family have taken over this responsibility sooner?

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Man, 86, accused of shooting wife because medication was too expensive [View all] RockaFowler May 2016 OP

I quit going to the doctors and taking my medication because I can't afford it. bahrbearian May 2016 #1

SS? What about Medicaid or Medicare? KamaAina May 2016 #6

Yea we have Medicaid with a $400 month co-pay bahrbearian May 2016 #7

Okay, there is some confusion here. If you have Social jwirr May 2016 #28

perhaps not to you....my mom was a depression era child and she wanted to die before house payback dembotoz May 2016 #31

I think you must be talking to someone else. I am a depression jwirr May 2016 #38

here in wisconsin they are very much into cost recovery.... dembotoz May 2016 #40

Here in MN we also do cost recovery. But you cannot recover jwirr May 2016 #43

what is amusing is the wealthy part of the family did the trust thing and avoided the problem dembotoz May 2016 #49

On that I agree with you totally. And that is why cost jwirr May 2016 #59

so sorry you're going through this.... ExtraGriz May 2016 #19

Is there any indication that she consented to this? Orrex May 2016 #2

My question also. Liberal_in_LA May 2016 #45

No age exemption for murder FLPanhandle May 2016 #3

He is being charged with first degree murder. djean111 May 2016 #4

+1,000 malaise May 2016 #5

No, the crime is that he killed his wife with premeditation Orrex May 2016 #8

Where did I say he should not be charged? djean111 May 2016 #9

You said "the real crime here" Act_of_Reparation May 2016 #10

Yes, poor choice of words. djean111 May 2016 #11

Yes, that is the real crime... Human101948 May 2016 #53

You're making assumptions based on nothing Orrex May 2016 #12

I never said this was an excuse for murder. n/t djean111 May 2016 #27

You admitted to your poor choice of words Orrex May 2016 #34

Well, I will just have to let it go at that. djean111 May 2016 #36

Well, no. They're not "both crimes," at least not in any legal sense. Orrex May 2016 #37

oh dog NJCher May 2016 #54

no more meds... lame54 May 2016 #62

Still premeditated murder. Orrex May 2016 #63

+1000 nt abelenkpe May 2016 #22

No, he planned her murder obamanut2012 May 2016 #24

Planning also goes into assisted suicide. jwirr May 2016 #29

As does informed consent Orrex May 2016 #35

That sounds like American values. Fuck citizens' needs and all problems are solved with guns. nt valerief May 2016 #13

I'm curious as to why he didn't turn the gun on himself afterwards ProudToBeBlueInRhody May 2016 #14

He said it was about the money. Suicides don't care about money. WinkyDink May 2016 #51

What about it being a mercy killing? zalinda May 2016 #15

Well, we don't actually have that as a legal "out.' WinkyDink May 2016 #52

Yeah, we treat our animals with more dignity. eom zalinda May 2016 #61

Single payer? NO WAY! snort May 2016 #16

They both should have walked into a bank and held it up packman May 2016 #17

jail? dynamo99 May 2016 #20

one day many of us will be in this exact same position. Javaman May 2016 #18

one day many of us will be in this exact same position. dynamo99 May 2016 #23

Perhaps we could implement some sort of Affordable Care legislation to fix this hughee99 May 2016 #39

perhaps, but don't count on it. Javaman May 2016 #47

If she wanted to die, why not leave the gun with her and go for a walk? FLPanhandle May 2016 #21

Yup, premeditated murder obamanut2012 May 2016 #25

that assumes she could do it herself NJCher May 2016 #55

Too tragic for words. TIME TO PANIC May 2016 #26

Sounds to me... Helen Borg May 2016 #30

I also wonder if she asked him to help her Ilsa May 2016 #32

how many of you have watched a spouse slowly die? i have it is not fun dembotoz May 2016 #33

I am sorry for your loss. DawgHouse May 2016 #42

thanks for writing out your perspective NJCher May 2016 #56

How awful for the family of this couple. DawgHouse May 2016 #41

If she was ill and in so much pain tavernier May 2016 #44

Everyone has an excuse for murder Democat May 2016 #46

so it is only ok if both die? dembotoz May 2016 #48

I do hope that as the baby boomers age, their money and influence (as a cohort) will change the way Brickbat May 2016 #50

I think about that a lot NJCher May 2016 #57

Part of the problem is that humans are bad at imagining the future, and we're also bad at managing Brickbat May 2016 #58

excellent points, all NJCher May 2016 #60