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Emelina

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43. Not getting married is not a statement of independence

Wed May 18, 2016, 03:23 AM

May 2016

I would prefer a nation that sees its allegiance to family units rather than everyone being in a fractured state socially. Derkheim made it clear that family networks are our primary sense of being. His analysis is over a century old but I will stick to its validity.

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Why Not Getting Married Is Smart Economics For Women [View all] marmar May 2016 OP

K&R. smirkymonkey May 2016 #1

I should show this infographic to women I date IronLionZion May 2016 #2

(you get dates??!?) lastlib May 2016 #7

Cats! IronLionZion May 2016 #8

Never woulda thought of that! Thanks! lastlib May 2016 #11

Reverse #3 and it's certainly a good reason TexasMommaWithAHat May 2016 #3

I saw a similar discussion on this last year (maybe same data?) I think.... Adrahil May 2016 #4

K & R with thanks! ancianita May 2016 #5

Correlation or Causation? One_Life_To_Give May 2016 #6

Most seem like money based arguments Egnever May 2016 #9

You must have more than you need... scscholar May 2016 #26

Of course Egnever May 2016 #41

My GF and I have chosen not to marry because of... Javaman May 2016 #10

Social security spousal and survivor benefits may be a reason to re-think. JustABozoOnThisBus May 2016 #12

If one you is unable to work before accumulating TexasMommaWithAHat May 2016 #17

Yeah, it's the latter... Javaman May 2016 #21

I'm 52 and never wanted to be married PasadenaTrudy May 2016 #13

+1 nt Javaman May 2016 #22

I wonder how much of the difference is due to children? FLPanhandle May 2016 #14

Exactly PasadenaTrudy May 2016 #16

As for as your last line - it's smart only for individuals - not society TexasMommaWithAHat May 2016 #18

Except I suspect Social Security will be privatized by then FLPanhandle May 2016 #19

I surely hope not! TexasMommaWithAHat May 2016 #20

One study purported to show that childless career women had the same career arc & income as men. Hekate May 2016 #30

Unmarried, childless women under 30 who live in cities make substantially more than men Major Nikon May 2016 #36

Are you suggesting men don't want children? davidn3600 May 2016 #38

Ah, I see you harbor some resentment there. I wasn't exactly addressing you here. Hekate May 2016 #42

Bob's your uncle Major Nikon May 2016 #35

That data is what scares ReTHUGs malaise May 2016 #15

This only proves what most us knew what marriage was really all about... davidn3600 May 2016 #23

Well, and the unpaid labor of women, assumed to benefit men, Warpy May 2016 #24

Married men do so much better? Really? davidn3600 May 2016 #34

Argue with the charts Warpy May 2016 #44

So if women are doing more work at home, and men are doing more work for pay.... Major Nikon May 2016 #40

Why do you think it's a legal contract with many clauses delineating responsibilities & rights? Hekate May 2016 #31

i'm terribly far off, in terms of money, married as i would be single fizzgig May 2016 #32

Wow. I took a look at that from my families situations. Very jwirr May 2016 #25

"Women earn more when they don't marry, men earn less" lumberjack_jeff May 2016 #27

Good point. I would have quit my well paying job by now if not for supporting the family. FLPanhandle May 2016 #28

I have a very definite opinion on what people I've never met should do with their own lives. Warren DeMontague May 2016 #29

+1 fizzgig May 2016 #33

Getting married is for suckers daleo May 2016 #37

I never could get past the part where you could only be with that one person.... Skittles May 2016 #39

Not getting married is not a statement of independence Emelina May 2016 #43