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In reply to the discussion: My Mother passed away this afternoon [View all]ginnyinWI
(17,276 posts)I had been quite involved in her care, managing her finances (she had memory loss), taking her to doctor appointments and everything, even though she was also in assisted living. She went to hospice and lasted just four more days and passed away due to congestive heart failure at age 86.
As executor I have kept on managing Mom's stuff so have been almost as busy. But it is slowing down and I'm starting to feel the loss more now. My role as daughter-caregiver is over, and I will miss our times together. Since she passed away I catch myself thinking that I really must get over to see her, or call her, or tell her something that's happened in the family, or whatever I used to talk to her about. I would love to have another afternoon to talk to her and have a nice visit. We had those nice times though--usually when she was in the hospital and they'd fixed her symptoms up as much as they could so that she was in the best shape possible. Then she'd be released and go back down again in only weeks.
We thought she had a little more time, but she went into a steep decline the last two or three months. You keep thinking you can fix this thing too, but you have to finally let go.
I wish I had realized how little time she had left because I would have done a few things differently. But I have to keep telling myself that I did what I knew best to do at the time.
Spring was her favorite season. I'm smelling all the lilacs and tulips for her, because she'd have loved them, and appreciating the bird and frogs and everything. But then, she did have 86 Springs and that's pretty good for any one life.,