I am taking my time digesting these. I am only on the second video, and was reminded that healing involves going counterintuitive and going toward the most pain and discomfort rather than away. This is the only way to heal, not to just medicate and distract and run away from it.
This white over culture is very stoic, which would consider facing white privilege too 'touchy feely', anger is allowed for white people to feel--but grief, sadness, guilt, shame--those get projected onto everyone else, then their shadow boxing commences from there. I was raised in a very stoic family, so I understand what these repressive dynamics can have on functional relationships 
first hand.
Reminds me of a book I read as a teen, Anais Nin upon arriving in NYC in 1930 from Paris, said she related best to the immigrants and Africans, because they weren't as stoic. She wrote that she believed this to be a key to racial divide, since people who are stoic tend to be overwhelmed when met with uninhibited people, and people used to being open have trouble trusting people they cannot read. I continue to find this to be a profound observation, and hope that I explained this well. Not meant as a broad brush but actually insight into how different cultures relate, and depend upon body language as well as appearance.
When I look at humanity as a collective, I see this white over culture as an inflated Ego that has grown away from symbiosis with the planet and of all life--and in order to sustain itself it has to deny the pain that this causes. Denying grief and denying the pain people are in and have been is a big part of how each of us participates and perpetuates this sickness.
Thank you MrScorpio
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