My new neighbor is very clever.

[pitohui]

60. no yr neighbor is simply a conformist, EVERYONE already has these

ALL of my neighbors who have kids have basketball set-ups, have had for at least 20 years, and i think if you looked a little closer instead of just noticing it when it hit you where it hurts (next door) you would see that

this is simply the norm for the last two, three decades

you would no more deny yr kid the basketball hoop than you would deny them underwear

i see no lesson here, other than a scary one about how much people don't notice in everyday life until it impacts them very PERSONALLY

but there is nothing clever about following the crowd and ordering your kid to be "popular" and like everyone else, it was ever thus...my parents couldn't accept that i was shy and they too wanted to force performance upon me, it's actually kinda sad since the kid now knows he can only be accepted if he's somebody he ain't