Risks of Harm from Spanking Confirmed by Analysis of Five Decades of Research

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97. It's not corrective action, it's abuse

and causes damage. It should never be used, not even as a 'last straw'. When I had my kids I made it "not an option" and so, I never resorted to it.

If a large child (and I'm guessing older) is bullying other kids, there's a reason that kid is already in that position and by then it may be too late for a parent who caused the problem to rein it in. I'll tell you what - beating or spanking isn't going to do SHIT but make the whole situation worse. And who the heck would spank a child that big? someone who isn't smart enough to deal with a child like that, that's who. That kid probably would need more intense therapy...and maybe someone to show that they give a shit, or someone who lets them know they expect more from them...and it won't work in all cases, some kids are sociopaths (my best friend has such a child) and in that case you have to convince the kid that certain behaviors are in their best interests. It's really not that hard. If a person can't figure it out, they shouldn't be working with kids.

My 2nd daughter is easily 150 lbs and significantly taller than me (And stronger), and if I hit her, that would be abuse. And it would be pointless because it would teach her nothing. Weirdly enough, even though she's larger, stronger, taller etc, she is a good kid who has empathy, helps me out, does her chores when asked, has a job, etc. If I would have used spanking as my discipline tool, which is simply teaching that someone big can make you do something because they can hurt you, I'd be screwed right about now.

The parent who needs empowerment to learn other ways of disciplining a larger teenager also needs heavy therapy, parenting classes, non-violent communication classes...and so on. And then, that parent would have to re-gain their child's trust, because I can guarantee if that parent has hit or beat their child as the favored method of discipline up until that point, there is no real trust there.

Anyway, no use talking with you because you seem convinced. Really, there are literally hundreds of books out there on how to deal with kids without spanking and why it is more effective. Maybe pick one or two or several dozen up and read them. Most of us who are saying "I wouldn't do that" have read those books - that is where your "more" is. Spanking is for the lazy. The knowledge is out there. Learn it.