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Marthe48

(17,087 posts)
28. Depends on situation
Thu Jul 7, 2016, 11:09 PM
Jul 2016

Teens were high and running wild through our neighborhood. Some of the younger neighbors tried to stop them --one of them beat up a 12 year old boy, the gang tore up Christmas decorations. Our car was vandalized and there were fistfights between the young neighbors and the teens. The cops had been called once, and didn't take the teens in. Someone called the cops again and they arrested at least 2 of the teens. The next morning, some relatives of the teens came back to our neighborhood with the intent of beating up one of the neighbors who'd been in a fistfight with one of the teens. So somebody called the cops again. They warned the relatives to stay off our street or get arrested. And detained 2 underage kids to be picked up at the police station by their parents. So in that case, the cops did their job, sort of. I would have liked to see the adult relatives arrested instead of warned.

In my old neighborhood, one of my neighbors has an adult son. He came to 'visit' and stayed. He is abusive and controlling. One of the first nights he was there, she called my husband and me to come over because he had shoved the refrigerator against the wall and knocked things off it, broke those and then broke the toilet tank lid. We got them calmed down, but from then on, I didn't like or trust the son. She called the cops on him one night after that. She said she wanted him out of her house. He has no claim to the house, but the cops said he had been there long enough, she'd have to evict him to get him out. I got her ok to contact elder protection and she had a caseworker. I hope that having a caseworker protected her. He finally left and she swore that she'd never let him come back. That was a few years ago. Right before we moved, she told me he had quit drinking and he was going to come for a 3 month visit. That was almost 2 years ago and he is still there and she is selling her house and moving just to get rid of him. He is just as abusive and controlling and she is so unhappy. I think the cops were ignorant of the law and should have gotten him out when she called them. He was threatening her. And it is escalating-she told me he has pushed her twice. She accuses him and he says he just brushed past her through a door. With steps. Yeah, right.

Everyone involved in both incidents are white.

Consider carefully before calling the police. yardwork Jul 2016 #1
Yep, too many are on the edge for many reasons. I think it's way too easy today for a situation to RKP5637 Jul 2016 #2
I don't understand the use of 2nd person in the 4th response HereSince1628 Jul 2016 #3
tell me how to better word it and I'll change it! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #6
I just changed it! Thanks! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #7
Depending on the situation - and very hesitant. eom BlueCaliDem Jul 2016 #4
"Yes, absolutely, if I needed help that would outweigh my concerns, but of course, I'm white." MH1 Jul 2016 #5
I do think there are many good cops, but on the other hand I think there are quite a few bad ones, RKP5637 Jul 2016 #9
If you have a dog, don't call them, because they seem to shoot any dog ina tblue37 Jul 2016 #53
I was going to say that too treestar Jul 2016 #68
Where I live absolutely sharp_stick Jul 2016 #8
In most cases better than calling George Zimmerman or grabbing your own gun. I do get the Hoyt Jul 2016 #10
Yes, because I live in Sweden, but would think twice if in the US AntiBank Jul 2016 #11
It's really pretty scary in some parts of the US. I don't know who I'm more scared of, calling the RKP5637 Jul 2016 #15
I would in the town I live in, because I know them personally. Rex Jul 2016 #12
The police have been made into eunuchs in florida.. dubyadiprecession Jul 2016 #13
Most republicans are absolute idiots! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #18
Yes, because I have white privilege as a white woman. phylny Jul 2016 #14
This is my answer, too. stage left Jul 2016 #24
Would *I* call..yes, because I am female and light skinned and middle class nadine_mn Jul 2016 #45
That is how I would reply, too. spooky3 Jul 2016 #59
Depends on the situation melman Jul 2016 #16
Yep, I have the same thoughts on this. n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #19
It really depends on the situation, but in most cases......... socialist_n_TN Jul 2016 #17
Yep, same here, as a last resort. n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #21
I'd be VERY hesitant to call the police forjusticethunders Jul 2016 #20
Sometimes cops just escalate a situation. I once called because my neighbor across the hall had RKP5637 Jul 2016 #23
I think this also depends on where you live in the US. Zing Zing Zingbah Jul 2016 #22
Me? I'm an upper-middle class white guy. I'm safe... Adrahil Jul 2016 #25
last resort drray23 Jul 2016 #26
Yep, that's what I'm concerned about too, cops getting out of control and doing strange RKP5637 Jul 2016 #27
Depends on situation Marthe48 Jul 2016 #28
OMG! This, is horrible!!! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #29
yes, it is Marthe48 Jul 2016 #34
Sometimes situations just seem to continue to escalate no matter how logically one RKP5637 Jul 2016 #36
The law on kicking someone out gets wierd in some places Bradical79 Jul 2016 #56
Depends gwheezie Jul 2016 #30
... or it might have severely escalated depending on which cops arrived. n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #32
Well done :) Marthe48 Jul 2016 #35
I had an ulterior motive gwheezie Jul 2016 #48
I appreciated the fast response from SFPD RandySF Jul 2016 #31
Definitely, that is one of the times to call!!! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #33
Would not hesitate. Montgomery County Md. police are totally professional. Kingofalldems Jul 2016 #37
Yep, I think it depends mostly on the area. n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #38
Exactly. One of the reasons I won't visit the South is the cops Kingofalldems Jul 2016 #41
Maybe. herding cats Jul 2016 #39
Yep, it's difficult to have one feeling, there are often so many variables. n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #40
I trust the ones here. raven mad Jul 2016 #42
I don't trust anyone explicitly, but I would not hesitate to call in an emergency Ex Lurker Jul 2016 #43
Yep! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #44
How often does someone (of any race) who calls the police, end up being shot by them? Nye Bevan Jul 2016 #46
Several where police have been called on a mentally ill family member, who ends up shot dead REP Jul 2016 #50
This Is The One RobinA Jul 2016 #62
Absolutely. romanic Jul 2016 #47
This message was self-deleted by its author liberaltrucker Jul 2016 #49
I can't imagine a situation in which I would call them. If I shot an armed arely staircase Jul 2016 #51
Scary now Lunabell Jul 2016 #52
Yes. I'm white. BainsBane Jul 2016 #54
Pretty much what I was going to say. DanTex Jul 2016 #57
You can't lump all cops together and label them as bad. Vinca Jul 2016 #55
Definitely an excellent point!!! n/t RKP5637 Jul 2016 #60
I won't say "I expect no problem at all" but I do know that if someone's in danger... Bucky Jul 2016 #58
I think the majority of cops are OK, but I also think there are some really bad ones. RKP5637 Jul 2016 #61
I saw someone online compare it to Muslims and Islamic-fueled terrorists Bucky Jul 2016 #64
Yep, I think that's the core of the problem. The bad cops often get a free pass from their RKP5637 Jul 2016 #67
funny i hit the yes button but switched to a maybe not dembotoz Jul 2016 #63
Anymore I would be hesitant, but it would not stop me from calling depending on RKP5637 Jul 2016 #65
Calling them when you are in trouble in different than treestar Jul 2016 #66
without hesitation DrDan Jul 2016 #69
Not today. (n/t) Iggo Jul 2016 #70
Hesitant almost to the point of hell no. It would have to either be beyond awful or TheKentuckian Jul 2016 #71
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