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GulfCoast66

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25. I support people's right to live

Wed Aug 3, 2016, 09:47 PM

Aug 2016

Any way they want.

My wife and I have an elderly(but very able) family member living with us. She covers her expenses, but were she in poverty she would be welcome.

But I personally would not allow an adult child to live for free with me unless the alternative was abject poverty. They have a job, they find a place to live. Now if they came to me with a plan to cover their share of expenses then I would consider it.

It may seem harsh, but my dad was loving and firm. Made it clear that when I was done with school, be it high school or college I was out the door. Made going to college attractive!

But I needed no pushing! Was ready to go.

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Harvard study: Women more likely to divorce men who don't live up to the breadwinner stereotype [View all] davidn3600 Aug 2016 OP

NoNewzHere.nt Eleanors38 Aug 2016 #1

I'd like to know if they bothered checking other factors Warpy Aug 2016 #2

Exactly. n/t renie408 Aug 2016 #4

Yes, somehow I see an agenda between the lines. Could it be the stereotype exists inside the men? Hekate Aug 2016 #6

+1 leftstreet Aug 2016 #7

I second that. Act_of_Reparation Aug 2016 #8

It touched on that issue davidn3600 Aug 2016 #9

I think the stereotype goes back to the agricultural revolution Warpy Aug 2016 #12

Wouldnt that suggest women may have to change their way of thinking too? davidn3600 Aug 2016 #17

Nature. NT Elmergantry Aug 2016 #28

... not to mention that, even without those other problems ... surrealAmerican Aug 2016 #10

Exactly. B2G Aug 2016 #46

Almost every one of my fights with the wife... awoke_in_2003 Aug 2016 #55

yup mercuryblues Aug 2016 #29

So while it may seem like women make some sexist decisions, that's just mens' fault? Marr Aug 2016 #39

Nice strawman Warpy Aug 2016 #52

There is a difference between not being the 'breadwinner' and not being able to hold renie408 Aug 2016 #3

Suppose the job market is terrible? treestar Aug 2016 #24

"The husband breadwinner norm persists." Brickbat Aug 2016 #5

My niece divorced her husband Buckeye_Democrat Aug 2016 #11

My first wife and I divorced because she started making more than I. Exilednight Aug 2016 #13

This is just an example of gender stereotypes hurting men. Calculating Aug 2016 #14

Is there really a study about that? treestar Aug 2016 #19

You certainlly can live with your parents or family member. GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #22

I think you are rather harsh treestar Aug 2016 #23

I support people's right to live GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #25

They have a job, they find a place to live. kcr Aug 2016 #43

Finally, confirmation that my parents are sociopaths. Haha nt prayin4rain Aug 2016 #47

Right GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #49

Haha, knowing is half the battle :) nt prayin4rain Aug 2016 #53

There are lots of different opinions GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #51

It's an American and western thing davidn3600 Aug 2016 #32

Is there any real proof of that? treestar Aug 2016 #34

Everyday life would be the proof of it The2ndWheel Aug 2016 #38

Well I wouldn't treestar Aug 2016 #40

Yeah, sexism is all women's fault. athena Aug 2016 #33

Thanks for point this out. nt raccoon Aug 2016 #37

Beware of false cause fallacies. The correlation could be explained in many ways. Vattel Aug 2016 #15

I have to admit, if I worked full time TexasBushwhacker Aug 2016 #16

fuckin sucks uponit7771 Aug 2016 #18

I have a relative who would love to be SAHD treestar Aug 2016 #20

Economic hardship is a stressor in any family. lostnfound Aug 2016 #21

I need to see the study ismnotwasm Aug 2016 #26

Yeah, we're all heartless gold-diggers worstexever Aug 2016 #27

Duh... TipTok Aug 2016 #30

I don't buy it. athena Aug 2016 #31

I once dated someone who was incapable of keeping a job alarimer Aug 2016 #35

I married someone like that. worstexever Aug 2016 #42

Post removed Post removed Aug 2016 #36

Well. sendero Aug 2016 #41

I wouldn't marrya woman who couldn't hold down a job taught_me_patience Aug 2016 #44

It's reasonable to put money before household labor optimization Taitertots Aug 2016 #45

My brother was a stay at home dad and raised his sons for 12 years. Avalux Aug 2016 #48

It rings very true. I make the money and therfore make the rules. GOLGO 13 Aug 2016 #50

My daughter makes way more than her husband Freddie Aug 2016 #54