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The2ndWheel

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38. Everyday life would be the proof of it

Thu Aug 4, 2016, 10:06 AM

Aug 2016

When people use the "living at home in mom's basement" insult, what is the image of the first person you think of?

All the more so if men do have economic advantages. Men have the advantages, and a guy is still living at home at X age? Few people will want to deal with that guy. Women or men. Romantic interests or friends. Other than criminals, what's lower socially than an able bodied 30 year old guy living at home for whatever reason? A 35 year old guy doing the same.

Not saying grown women who don't have things in order are living the life, but men and women in that particular situation are looked at differently.

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Harvard study: Women more likely to divorce men who don't live up to the breadwinner stereotype [View all] davidn3600 Aug 2016 OP

NoNewzHere.nt Eleanors38 Aug 2016 #1

I'd like to know if they bothered checking other factors Warpy Aug 2016 #2

Exactly. n/t renie408 Aug 2016 #4

Yes, somehow I see an agenda between the lines. Could it be the stereotype exists inside the men? Hekate Aug 2016 #6

+1 leftstreet Aug 2016 #7

I second that. Act_of_Reparation Aug 2016 #8

It touched on that issue davidn3600 Aug 2016 #9

I think the stereotype goes back to the agricultural revolution Warpy Aug 2016 #12

Wouldnt that suggest women may have to change their way of thinking too? davidn3600 Aug 2016 #17

Nature. NT Elmergantry Aug 2016 #28

... not to mention that, even without those other problems ... surrealAmerican Aug 2016 #10

Exactly. B2G Aug 2016 #46

Almost every one of my fights with the wife... awoke_in_2003 Aug 2016 #55

yup mercuryblues Aug 2016 #29

So while it may seem like women make some sexist decisions, that's just mens' fault? Marr Aug 2016 #39

Nice strawman Warpy Aug 2016 #52

There is a difference between not being the 'breadwinner' and not being able to hold renie408 Aug 2016 #3

Suppose the job market is terrible? treestar Aug 2016 #24

"The husband breadwinner norm persists." Brickbat Aug 2016 #5

My niece divorced her husband Buckeye_Democrat Aug 2016 #11

My first wife and I divorced because she started making more than I. Exilednight Aug 2016 #13

This is just an example of gender stereotypes hurting men. Calculating Aug 2016 #14

Is there really a study about that? treestar Aug 2016 #19

You certainlly can live with your parents or family member. GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #22

I think you are rather harsh treestar Aug 2016 #23

I support people's right to live GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #25

They have a job, they find a place to live. kcr Aug 2016 #43

Finally, confirmation that my parents are sociopaths. Haha nt prayin4rain Aug 2016 #47

Right GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #49

Haha, knowing is half the battle :) nt prayin4rain Aug 2016 #53

There are lots of different opinions GulfCoast66 Aug 2016 #51

It's an American and western thing davidn3600 Aug 2016 #32

Is there any real proof of that? treestar Aug 2016 #34

Everyday life would be the proof of it The2ndWheel Aug 2016 #38

Well I wouldn't treestar Aug 2016 #40

Yeah, sexism is all women's fault. athena Aug 2016 #33

Thanks for point this out. nt raccoon Aug 2016 #37

Beware of false cause fallacies. The correlation could be explained in many ways. Vattel Aug 2016 #15

I have to admit, if I worked full time TexasBushwhacker Aug 2016 #16

fuckin sucks uponit7771 Aug 2016 #18

I have a relative who would love to be SAHD treestar Aug 2016 #20

Economic hardship is a stressor in any family. lostnfound Aug 2016 #21

I need to see the study ismnotwasm Aug 2016 #26

Yeah, we're all heartless gold-diggers worstexever Aug 2016 #27

Duh... TipTok Aug 2016 #30

I don't buy it. athena Aug 2016 #31

I once dated someone who was incapable of keeping a job alarimer Aug 2016 #35

I married someone like that. worstexever Aug 2016 #42

Post removed Post removed Aug 2016 #36

Well. sendero Aug 2016 #41

I wouldn't marrya woman who couldn't hold down a job taught_me_patience Aug 2016 #44

It's reasonable to put money before household labor optimization Taitertots Aug 2016 #45

My brother was a stay at home dad and raised his sons for 12 years. Avalux Aug 2016 #48

It rings very true. I make the money and therfore make the rules. GOLGO 13 Aug 2016 #50

My daughter makes way more than her husband Freddie Aug 2016 #54