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mythology

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44. I had a somewhat similar situation a few years ago
Mon Aug 15, 2016, 12:11 AM
Aug 2016

I needed a minor surgery as a precursor for a much larger surgery a few months later. For the first one, I got 6 days notice of the surgery, and of the two people I felt I could reasonably ask, one worked at a university and the surgery was right after school started and the other could only pick me up after surgery.

So I logged on to the public transit website and found I could make the 30 mile trip down to Foxborough (estimated driving time 40 minutes) in a mere 110 minutes, including a bus trip, a commuter rail trip and ending with 3.5 mile walk from the last train stop to the hospital for knee surgery. Knowing how public transit is, and knowing how bad I am at navigating it, I gave myself an extra hour. And then promptly took the bus in the wrong direction and ended up having to take two buses, a subway trip, the commuter rail to a different station and then an 11 mile cab ride to the hospital and I was still only 10 minutes late for check in.

After I wake up from surgery which went really quickly, I had two meetings with the doctor (one of which I have absolutely no memory of) I got to spend the next hour reassuring the nurses that my ride home was going to be there at the time they had anticipated me being ready to be discharged. Because it was my friend's fault that they were ready to discharge me an hour early.

I did let my mom pick me up for the second surgery since I was crashing at their place since my life isn't set up for 7 weeks of no driving. Unfortunately my mom isn't really able to deal with Boston traffic and trying to follow a gps, so I had to remain awake and aware long enough to navigate her out of the city in rush hour traffic in the winter so it was dark out, driving my stepdad's oversized SUV since I wasn't in a position to fit into her car's backseat with a leg locked in an immobilizer.

Fun times. I did get to miss shoveling any snow during the winter where Boston got over 110 inches of snow. It did look mighty impressive from the window.

You may be a loner, but it does sometimes lead to some interesting funny stories later.

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The cost of being a loner [View all] left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 OP
Here's a couple of articles. Its a widespread and growing problem progree Aug 2016 #1
Taskrabbit.com? mahina Aug 2016 #7
Uber drivers will do it if you negotiate flamingdem Aug 2016 #42
Have you had good experiences ?? Sounds like it . I am about to use them but hesitant... Person 2713 Aug 2016 #69
Yes, I have. Hired someone to do data entry. mahina Aug 2016 #72
There were articles (studies?) about the contradiction in Latino/a communities - poor w good health Liberal_in_LA Aug 2016 #31
My wife is Mexican American awoke_in_2003 Aug 2016 #46
I don't think it is rugged individualism that the OP speaks of.... TheDebbieDee Aug 2016 #57
I, too, am an intovert awoke_in_2003 Aug 2016 #58
I am an introvert. I'm 54 and I've found that the older I get... TheDebbieDee Aug 2016 #59
I am 48 and am the same awoke_in_2003 Aug 2016 #60
OMG. . .I am too. . . kevinbgoode1 Aug 2016 #63
There are a few FB groups with people who identify as TheDebbieDee Aug 2016 #78
Same here PasadenaTrudy Aug 2016 #76
I hear you. deathrind Aug 2016 #2
Social services at the hospital might have a solution for you. Lars39 Aug 2016 #3
If you're anywhere NE Ohio send me a PM and I'll take you. nt Doremus Aug 2016 #4
In some communities there are programs that offer rides to seniors flamingdem Aug 2016 #5
I hope you can find someone trustworthy csziggy Aug 2016 #6
If there's a county.......... mrmpa Aug 2016 #8
hey Skittles Aug 2016 #9
Try This Link The River Aug 2016 #10
DU member PasadenaTrudy Aug 2016 #11
I have exactly the same problem greymattermom Aug 2016 #12
I'd try asking PasadenaTrudy Aug 2016 #13
Good idea, all the loners should start some Facebook city groups and have contacts... snooper2 Aug 2016 #70
I've lent "friends" money I didnt expect to get back padfun Aug 2016 #14
I'd have to think being a loner would be devastating for your health FrodosPet Aug 2016 #15
If you're in NC, let me know. cwydro Aug 2016 #16
OP lives in Albuquerque NM SCantiGOP Aug 2016 #21
Well durn. cwydro Aug 2016 #23
Yeah, long drive. SCantiGOP Aug 2016 #25
before insurance companies dictated medical care........ Takket Aug 2016 #17
Yeah, how bout dat shit?? Those were the good old days, weren't they? nt Nay Aug 2016 #43
My hospital hooks people up with a service. Demobrat Aug 2016 #18
It's not just "loners." moondust Aug 2016 #19
I'm sorry. Buckeye_Democrat Aug 2016 #20
A couple clarifications left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 #22
Too bad you aren't nearer to me... but I've had procedures where they want me to Squinch Aug 2016 #26
Surely you can't be the only one whose ever been in this situation. Peregrine Took Aug 2016 #28
The "wait" part strikes me as odd. Buckeye_Democrat Aug 2016 #30
yeah, that does seem odd JI7 Aug 2016 #50
See post #27 riderinthestorm Aug 2016 #33
thanks left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 #40
Red Cross! I work in a clinic and they offer volunteers to do just this! Laffy Kat Aug 2016 #37
Most counties have a transportation service. cwydro Aug 2016 #24
I live in New Mexico... chillfactor Aug 2016 #27
Thanks left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 #39
You are a good person awoke_in_2003 Aug 2016 #48
A true knight! Mendocino Aug 2016 #52
thank you all... chillfactor Aug 2016 #55
You are awesome! Bobbie Jo Aug 2016 #64
Yay! You are fabulous. Squinch Aug 2016 #65
You!!!!! Are awesome! tenderfoot Aug 2016 #71
This is so kind of you! madibella Aug 2016 #74
hospitals want to 'hand off" the patient to someone. They don't even take your word Liberal_in_LA Aug 2016 #29
"Need a ride?" Albequerque area Peregrine Took Aug 2016 #32
That's brutal. I'm sorry. PoliticalMalcontent Aug 2016 #34
I can't believe the doctor or medical facility doesn't have a service to pickup/return patients. George II Aug 2016 #35
It's an imposition to ask people to take off from work lindysalsagal Aug 2016 #36
after this, might want to try to make some new friends 6chars Aug 2016 #38
I know of 2 people who have explained this to doctors and both times they were kept overnight Person 2713 Aug 2016 #41
This is in a doctor's clinic left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 #67
Sorry, If you can talk to the clinic again ask them again for help . Don't give up. Best to you Person 2713 Aug 2016 #68
I had a somewhat similar situation a few years ago mythology Aug 2016 #44
Get familiar with the Department of Aging around your area. W_HAMILTON Aug 2016 #45
Contact senior service type places, maybe some churches or other religious organizations JI7 Aug 2016 #47
can you engage in social activities without the purpose of looking for friendship JI7 Aug 2016 #49
If I didn't have my son MFM008 Aug 2016 #51
Sounds like you and I could be brothers :) n/t kevinmc Aug 2016 #53
There are a lot of us in this situation.. HipChick Aug 2016 #54
Call a livery service. LeftyMom Aug 2016 #56
No matter what you do life it will still challenge you nolabels Aug 2016 #61
Churches and religious organizations jcboon Aug 2016 #62
This is a very interesting thread and I'm so glad chillfactor chimed it. But Squinch Aug 2016 #66
Good idea! PasadenaTrudy Aug 2016 #77
This message was self-deleted by its author closeupready Aug 2016 #73
How would anyone know it is an Uber driver? Motley13 Aug 2016 #75
Their cars aren't marked in Albuquerque left-of-center2012 Aug 2016 #80
I am an introvert too. It doesn't help to have a life that is full. AgadorSparticus Aug 2016 #79
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