My heart is broken

[TygrBright]

90. I am so sorry, Choie.... Holding you in my heart.

For consolation.

Such a devastating, devastating loss.

Stay with us, please.

You're cared about here. Your voice matters.

We value you in this community.

Thank you for reaching out to us.

We're not "just on the internet," we ARE a community, and we care.

But that said, do reach out in other ways to real people for real help, too. Don't try to tough something this devastating out, on your own.

Many hospitals and hospices sponsor grief groups that are open to anyone, not just those who've used their facilities, and they are facilitated by professionals who understand loss and grief. The other people in those groups are sharing similar feelings. They're less likely to say some of the insensitively clueless things well-intentioned friends and neighbors say, that rip the hole in your heart further.

It may seem like too much to ask of yourself, when this kind of devastation sucks so much life and energy out of you, but push toward it anyway, slowly, at your own pace.

Your love, your soulmate, the one who cared the most, ask yourself what he'd want for you. Then try to give yourself that, because it WILL be from him. Your knowledge of him is still in your heart and will be with you forever.

Keep reaching out.

We won't get tired of being here for you, that's what a community is about.

lovingly,
Bright