My heart is broken

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163. I am so very sorry to hear this.

It's not fair, is it? It just isn't fair.

A friend of my husband's--they went through basic training together back in the era of Vietnam--went down at age 49 from a massive heart attack.
He was an ER doc at a conference working out in a hotel gym and had two surgeons--one on either side of him--doing CPR on him practically before he hit the floor. He was in
great shape...so it seemed. It was just his time.

My advice is to let yourself feel your loss. Talk about him and your time together. Let yourself feel the pain. Cry it out. Be kind to yourself. Try to avoid making
any serious decisions for awhile about big changes, like moving or changing jobs. Don't worry about a 'timetable' for grieving.

If you have the resources, find a good therapist to help you deal with your grief. There may be some appropriate groups in the area that you might want to investigate
to see if participating in them would be comfortable and helpful.

Try not to hide. Friends may hesitate to call you; don't be afraid to call them. If they say they don't know what they can do to help, just ask them to listen and let you talk.

Sending you hugs...