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Warren DeMontague

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120. you can call it whatever the fuck you want

Reply to BlueStreak (Reply #96)

Fri Sep 2, 2016, 03:28 AM

Sep 2016

but put me down on the side of "leave people the fuck alone if they aren't hurting you"

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Mother defends son's right to wear a tutu after being confronted by stranger in park [View all] davidn3600 Sep 2016 OP

so...screw that mean guy. The kid was happy, mom was happy. irisblue Sep 2016 #1

This message was self-deleted by its author irisblue Sep 2016 #2

I don't think people are allowed to murielm99 Sep 2016 #3

I think they can if they are in public. Jim Beard Sep 2016 #116

"Mind your own business, asshole" Warpy Sep 2016 #4

I would have taken his picture and then yelled "Hey this pervert is taking pictures of my kid!" to TeamPooka Sep 2016 #45

I am with you. niyad Sep 2016 #79

If you put a tutu on a three-year-old boy, don't be surprised at that reaction. Doodley Sep 2016 #5

Really? Laurian Sep 2016 #7

Well said. narnian60 Sep 2016 #9

I am not defending bullying, but if a mother dresses a child in a way that will likely cause the Doodley Sep 2016 #13

How many 3 year olds have you known? Warpy Sep 2016 #17

I agree, if a man said that, it is totally indefensible and unacceptable. Doodley Sep 2016 #54

Victim blaming, too? MineralMan Sep 2016 #27

Humor me for a moment here arithia Sep 2016 #38

Three year olds are old enough to have strong opinions about clothes, pnwmom Sep 2016 #39

I agree absolutely, but I think it unlikely a three-year-old would say" Doodley Sep 2016 #55

I remember thinking when I was 4 or 5 at most JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #63

But a three year old boy could see a tutu in a store and say: "I want to wear THAT!" pnwmom Sep 2016 #74

you would be surprised what a bright 3 or 4 year old can say. I raised 2 very demigoddess Sep 2016 #86

Someone here thought it was surprising pnwmom Sep 2016 #95

And the three-year-old who says "boys can't wear that!" isn't repeating what s/he has been told? Brickbat Sep 2016 #144

Sounds a lot like teenagebambam Sep 2016 #43

I am talking about people who are intolerant of others because they are different. Doodley Sep 2016 #61

we may then conclude that a minority should not express surprise or disbelief when confronted LanternWaste Sep 2016 #130

Lots of people would say this to an interracial couple obamanut2012 Sep 2016 #137

That's the same garbage rapists use. "If she didn't dress Exilednight Sep 2016 #155

Don't be surprised when someone tells a child they're being abused for wearing a tutu? Brickbat Sep 2016 #12

Georgia Doodley Sep 2016 #14

I have lived in Georgia for two decades and I know there Laurian Sep 2016 #21

Really?!? ihaveaquestion Sep 2016 #30

As a Southerner: no one would ever say that to a little boy wearing a tutu obamanut2012 Sep 2016 #138

I think you are on the wrong site. demmiblue Sep 2016 #15

I personally have no issue with what the kid wears, but let's get real. We live in a very bigoted Doodley Sep 2016 #16

The issue is whether the mother was projecting BlueStreak Sep 2016 #29

I see it as possibly a kind of Munchausen by Proxy. She is getting a lot of attention from this. Doodley Sep 2016 #32

The person with the problem was not the mother or the child. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #37

Are you equally supportive of mothers who dress their 3-year-old girls to look and act like whores BlueStreak Sep 2016 #51

I have to take a breath....... ciaobaby Sep 2016 #58

I am sorry if I have come across that way. I was bullied as a kid and know what it feels like Doodley Sep 2016 #70

Yet... sheshe2 Sep 2016 #94

I never said they were wrong. I have posted that I personally have no problem at all Doodley Sep 2016 #98

You do have a problem with it. sheshe2 Sep 2016 #101

Thanks for telling me. It has been an education. Doodley Sep 2016 #108

A toddler playing dressup and a toddler being pushed into a beauty pagent are different. haele Sep 2016 #140

Whoa! Hold on there, KMOD Sep 2016 #103

Three-year-old girls with permed hair, makeup, lipstick and clothes Doodley Sep 2016 #110

Now you are calling a three year old a lady of the night? and provocative? KMOD Sep 2016 #113

The fuck? Egnever Sep 2016 #147

Why would you assume the mother is projecting and a sicko? ciaobaby Sep 2016 #40

Have you even seen any evidence that this "person" was real? Were there other witnesses? Were there Doodley Sep 2016 #42

Wait just a minute, KMOD Sep 2016 #44

No, I didn't say she made it up. I said I was open minded to that possibility. Her stunning photo Doodley Sep 2016 #50

Her stunning photo was so professional, so I looked her up womanofthehills Sep 2016 #145

Well I guess we could ask that question of any post here. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #48

My youngest did the same thing. But we aren't getting 15 minutes of fame off the back of it. Doodley Sep 2016 #52

Did you shame your youngest for playing too ? ciaobaby Sep 2016 #60

No, to all your questions. He's a balanced kid and is a long-haired musician. Doodley Sep 2016 #65

So your son is a balanced kid - wonderful. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #67

When our girls were little, say 4 and 1, my friend would often bring her boys, then 5 and 2, over to phylny Sep 2016 #117

Bullshit! I think this is the wrong site for that crap. MineralMan Sep 2016 #26

Can you explain clearly what your problem is? Doodley Sep 2016 #33

This message was self-deleted by its author kestrel91316 Sep 2016 #46

I have reported your abusive post. I have never said, thought or written anything Doodley Sep 2016 #76

Can you give me a link or two to your supportive KMOD Sep 2016 #85

It might be somewhere up thread of where he says he "doesn't let his daughter dress like a tart" Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #90

Sure, take your pick: Doodley Sep 2016 #91

That sounds more like a LIBERTARIAN principle BlueStreak Sep 2016 #96

you can call it whatever the fuck you want Warren DeMontague Sep 2016 #120

i agree you are in the wrong place. mopinko Sep 2016 #35

So, I assume you don't agree with me when I say I don't care what the kid wears, we live in a nation Doodley Sep 2016 #41

the same thing they say about rape victims. Well you dressed like that, what do you expect? TeamPooka Sep 2016 #47

You don't know doodley squat. n/t ronnie624 Sep 2016 #75

wow. . . just. . . .wow. . . do you actually think that what that interfering, asshole "adult" niyad Sep 2016 #80

Of course I don't think it is okay. Did I ever say it was? Your misplaced indignation is offensive. Doodley Sep 2016 #83

actually, from the way you phrased things, it did sound exactly that way. niyad Sep 2016 #87

I have revised my first post on this thread to be clear. Why assume the worst in fellow DUers? Doodley Sep 2016 #93

in case you have not yet figured it out, not everybody who posts on du actually adheres to du niyad Sep 2016 #99

I am slow to figure things out! Thank you for your guidance, Niyad. Doodley Sep 2016 #107

No you didn't Egnever Sep 2016 #105

I am learning that. Being called a troll simply for expressing concern, or being called Doodley Sep 2016 #111

For some Egnever Sep 2016 #115

And there are many DUers who love a pile-on. cwydro Sep 2016 #133

You do realize you are enforcing and enabling this bullying attitude, right? obamanut2012 Sep 2016 #136

Kiss my kilt. JonathanRackham Sep 2016 #6

nearly owed me a keyboard. niyad Sep 2016 #81

Ok... I guess I've got to be the one who asks..... Why dress your 3 year old son in a tutu? nt clarice Sep 2016 #8

Because he's expressed a desire to wear one. Brickbat Sep 2016 #10

Well there we are. nt clarice Sep 2016 #11

Oh my god. I just took my 4 year old nephew to the Museum of Science and Industry. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #100

He dressed himself. Lars39 Sep 2016 #19

Perhaps he did. BTW... how's the back ? nt clarice Sep 2016 #22

Recovered from that! Lars39 Sep 2016 #24

Wow... that sucks !!!! It will all turn for the better.. I promise. nt clarice Sep 2016 #25

Oh, it will, eventually. :-) Lars39 Sep 2016 #28

Because a three year old probably saw it and liked it. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #92

exactly. KMOD Sep 2016 #109

Because young kids who haven't had gender stereotypes drilled into nadine_mn Sep 2016 #112

I Assume It Is What The Child Wanted colsohlibgal Sep 2016 #18

If Trump can wear Bobby pins, why not a boy in a tutu? WestCoastLib Sep 2016 #20

That is a good point! Initech Sep 2016 #49

my granddaughter likes overalls mainer Sep 2016 #23

agreed beergood Sep 2016 #34

Go mom! MrScorpio Sep 2016 #31

That looks like an outfit my granddaughter might wear -- and get mistaken for a boy. pnwmom Sep 2016 #36

Boys in dresses... AlbertCat Sep 2016 #53

It is always interesting to see changes in social norms. Egnever Sep 2016 #135

My father was born in 1910 marybourg Sep 2016 #152

Most of you are over liberalising ThingsGottaChange Sep 2016 #56

We all get bullied for something.. JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #64

No adult should be in his face either way. ThingsGottaChange Sep 2016 #68

Right! Egnever Sep 2016 #104

No. Sorry. I don't accept that. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #139

Again not what the poster is saying Egnever Sep 2016 #148

Peace means different things to different people ciaobaby Sep 2016 #66

Does no one get this? ThingsGottaChange Sep 2016 #69

Oh Crap ciaobaby Sep 2016 #72

Therein lies your problem JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #73

"Do you at least agree the adult is wrong for harassing the toddler?" The2ndWheel Sep 2016 #82

You didn't answer the question JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #89

The world is either full of shades of gray, or it isn't The2ndWheel Sep 2016 #128

What? That is not what that poster said at all Egnever Sep 2016 #102

If you're getting into a subjective topic of discussion, and expecting to change minds The2ndWheel Sep 2016 #78

in other word, we are to live our lives in fear of what other people, narrow-minded, bigoted, niyad Sep 2016 #84

No but you must face the reality that they are there Egnever Sep 2016 #106

where on earth do you get the idea that I do not know that they are there? believe me, niyad Sep 2016 #131

When you pretend that someone pointing out that there will be push back Egnever Sep 2016 #132

The kid is three fucking years old. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #97

Yep. Most normal adults realize that very small children live in their own fantasy world. prayin4rain Sep 2016 #119

Why does it matter? Oneironaut Sep 2016 #146

I agree with that mom 100%. Initech Sep 2016 #57

Nice quote ! thanks. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #62

Poor little kid. Let him be and wear what he wants. smirkymonkey Sep 2016 #59

At least she's not claiming that wanting to wear a tutu LittleDuckie Sep 2016 #71

hmmm, could she have had him arrested for approaching her son without her permission, niyad Sep 2016 #77

Pepper. Spray. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #88

Exactly. Right in his eyes. Being belittling to a child Divine Discontent Sep 2016 #123

Anyone who gets that upset over some fabric has problems. (nt) betsuni Sep 2016 #114

Binary Gender Nazis suck undergroundpanther Sep 2016 #118

I can't believe anyone here is actually siding w/the shitwit who started yelling at a stranger's kid Warren DeMontague Sep 2016 #121

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2016 #124

Or, maybe the story is for real. Warren DeMontague Sep 2016 #125

No one is Egnever Sep 2016 #134

This message was self-deleted by its author lumberjack_jeff Sep 2016 #143

+1 La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2016 #151

A big ol' eye roll Divine Discontent Sep 2016 #122

My son chose a Minnie Mouse doll at the store anoNY42 Sep 2016 #126

Good for her! deathrind Sep 2016 #127

Good mom. DLevine Sep 2016 #129

I like this story. Glassunion Sep 2016 #141

Awesome pics Egnever Sep 2016 #149

Yeah, they are great... Glassunion Sep 2016 #150

Thanks for posting these, Glassunion. Hortensis Sep 2016 #153

Do yourself a favor Glassunion Sep 2016 #154

I just did, thanks! There's something extra Hortensis Sep 2016 #156

This message was self-deleted by its author lumberjack_jeff Sep 2016 #142