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Warren DeMontague

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125. Or, maybe the story is for real.
Fri Sep 2, 2016, 06:14 AM
Sep 2016

In which case, the guy was being an grade-A asshole.

Having had extensive dealings with the human animal over the years, particularly in jobs working with the public, etc. I have come to the conclusion that the majority of people are fairly neutral, even borderline decent, most of the time. Then there's a sub-section of humanity that goes above and beyond to try and make things better, nicer, more beautiful, or more entertaining for those around them, because that seems to be who they are.

And then there's like, I dunno, 5% of the population that walks around most or all the time in a permanent scowling state of unbridled assholishness. Certainly your authoritarian types fall into this category, and your Trump voter to be sure- but it's a set of personality traits that most absolutely WOULD encompass interjecting oneself into this kind of situation in such a brazenly dickish manner.

Back when my kids were babies and toddlers, I certainly noticed the occasional frowny-faced fucknozzle- invariably, in my experience, a senior citizen- who felt entitled to get way too far into the personal space of my family unit and offer unsolicited advice on things like how atrocious breastfeeding in public is or their belief in the need to spank a 6 month old who wouldn't stop crying in a car seat.

So I find the story believable, myself.

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so...screw that mean guy. The kid was happy, mom was happy. irisblue Sep 2016 #1
This message was self-deleted by its author irisblue Sep 2016 #2
I don't think people are allowed to murielm99 Sep 2016 #3
I think they can if they are in public. Jim Beard Sep 2016 #116
"Mind your own business, asshole" Warpy Sep 2016 #4
I would have taken his picture and then yelled "Hey this pervert is taking pictures of my kid!" to TeamPooka Sep 2016 #45
I am with you. niyad Sep 2016 #79
If you put a tutu on a three-year-old boy, don't be surprised at that reaction. Doodley Sep 2016 #5
Really? Laurian Sep 2016 #7
Well said. narnian60 Sep 2016 #9
I am not defending bullying, but if a mother dresses a child in a way that will likely cause the Doodley Sep 2016 #13
How many 3 year olds have you known? Warpy Sep 2016 #17
I agree, if a man said that, it is totally indefensible and unacceptable. Doodley Sep 2016 #54
Victim blaming, too? MineralMan Sep 2016 #27
Humor me for a moment here arithia Sep 2016 #38
Three year olds are old enough to have strong opinions about clothes, pnwmom Sep 2016 #39
I agree absolutely, but I think it unlikely a three-year-old would say" Doodley Sep 2016 #55
I remember thinking when I was 4 or 5 at most JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #63
But a three year old boy could see a tutu in a store and say: "I want to wear THAT!" pnwmom Sep 2016 #74
you would be surprised what a bright 3 or 4 year old can say. I raised 2 very demigoddess Sep 2016 #86
Someone here thought it was surprising pnwmom Sep 2016 #95
And the three-year-old who says "boys can't wear that!" isn't repeating what s/he has been told? Brickbat Sep 2016 #144
Sounds a lot like teenagebambam Sep 2016 #43
I am talking about people who are intolerant of others because they are different. Doodley Sep 2016 #61
we may then conclude that a minority should not express surprise or disbelief when confronted LanternWaste Sep 2016 #130
Lots of people would say this to an interracial couple obamanut2012 Sep 2016 #137
That's the same garbage rapists use. "If she didn't dress Exilednight Sep 2016 #155
Don't be surprised when someone tells a child they're being abused for wearing a tutu? Brickbat Sep 2016 #12
Georgia Doodley Sep 2016 #14
I have lived in Georgia for two decades and I know there Laurian Sep 2016 #21
Really?!? ihaveaquestion Sep 2016 #30
As a Southerner: no one would ever say that to a little boy wearing a tutu obamanut2012 Sep 2016 #138
I think you are on the wrong site. demmiblue Sep 2016 #15
I personally have no issue with what the kid wears, but let's get real. We live in a very bigoted Doodley Sep 2016 #16
The issue is whether the mother was projecting BlueStreak Sep 2016 #29
I see it as possibly a kind of Munchausen by Proxy. She is getting a lot of attention from this. Doodley Sep 2016 #32
The person with the problem was not the mother or the child. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #37
Are you equally supportive of mothers who dress their 3-year-old girls to look and act like whores BlueStreak Sep 2016 #51
I have to take a breath....... ciaobaby Sep 2016 #58
I am sorry if I have come across that way. I was bullied as a kid and know what it feels like Doodley Sep 2016 #70
Yet... sheshe2 Sep 2016 #94
I never said they were wrong. I have posted that I personally have no problem at all Doodley Sep 2016 #98
You do have a problem with it. sheshe2 Sep 2016 #101
Thanks for telling me. It has been an education. Doodley Sep 2016 #108
A toddler playing dressup and a toddler being pushed into a beauty pagent are different. haele Sep 2016 #140
Whoa! Hold on there, KMOD Sep 2016 #103
Three-year-old girls with permed hair, makeup, lipstick and clothes Doodley Sep 2016 #110
Now you are calling a three year old a lady of the night? and provocative? KMOD Sep 2016 #113
The fuck? Egnever Sep 2016 #147
Why would you assume the mother is projecting and a sicko? ciaobaby Sep 2016 #40
Have you even seen any evidence that this "person" was real? Were there other witnesses? Were there Doodley Sep 2016 #42
Wait just a minute, KMOD Sep 2016 #44
No, I didn't say she made it up. I said I was open minded to that possibility. Her stunning photo Doodley Sep 2016 #50
Her stunning photo was so professional, so I looked her up womanofthehills Sep 2016 #145
Well I guess we could ask that question of any post here. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #48
My youngest did the same thing. But we aren't getting 15 minutes of fame off the back of it. Doodley Sep 2016 #52
Did you shame your youngest for playing too ? ciaobaby Sep 2016 #60
No, to all your questions. He's a balanced kid and is a long-haired musician. Doodley Sep 2016 #65
So your son is a balanced kid - wonderful. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #67
When our girls were little, say 4 and 1, my friend would often bring her boys, then 5 and 2, over to phylny Sep 2016 #117
Bullshit! I think this is the wrong site for that crap. MineralMan Sep 2016 #26
Can you explain clearly what your problem is? Doodley Sep 2016 #33
This message was self-deleted by its author kestrel91316 Sep 2016 #46
I have reported your abusive post. I have never said, thought or written anything Doodley Sep 2016 #76
Can you give me a link or two to your supportive KMOD Sep 2016 #85
It might be somewhere up thread of where he says he "doesn't let his daughter dress like a tart" Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #90
Sure, take your pick: Doodley Sep 2016 #91
That sounds more like a LIBERTARIAN principle BlueStreak Sep 2016 #96
you can call it whatever the fuck you want Warren DeMontague Sep 2016 #120
i agree you are in the wrong place. mopinko Sep 2016 #35
So, I assume you don't agree with me when I say I don't care what the kid wears, we live in a nation Doodley Sep 2016 #41
the same thing they say about rape victims. Well you dressed like that, what do you expect? TeamPooka Sep 2016 #47
You don't know doodley squat. n/t ronnie624 Sep 2016 #75
wow. . . just. . . .wow. . . do you actually think that what that interfering, asshole "adult" niyad Sep 2016 #80
Of course I don't think it is okay. Did I ever say it was? Your misplaced indignation is offensive. Doodley Sep 2016 #83
actually, from the way you phrased things, it did sound exactly that way. niyad Sep 2016 #87
I have revised my first post on this thread to be clear. Why assume the worst in fellow DUers? Doodley Sep 2016 #93
in case you have not yet figured it out, not everybody who posts on du actually adheres to du niyad Sep 2016 #99
I am slow to figure things out! Thank you for your guidance, Niyad. Doodley Sep 2016 #107
No you didn't Egnever Sep 2016 #105
I am learning that. Being called a troll simply for expressing concern, or being called Doodley Sep 2016 #111
For some Egnever Sep 2016 #115
And there are many DUers who love a pile-on. cwydro Sep 2016 #133
You do realize you are enforcing and enabling this bullying attitude, right? obamanut2012 Sep 2016 #136
Kiss my kilt. JonathanRackham Sep 2016 #6
nearly owed me a keyboard. niyad Sep 2016 #81
Ok... I guess I've got to be the one who asks..... Why dress your 3 year old son in a tutu? nt clarice Sep 2016 #8
Because he's expressed a desire to wear one. Brickbat Sep 2016 #10
Well there we are. nt clarice Sep 2016 #11
Oh my god. I just took my 4 year old nephew to the Museum of Science and Industry. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #100
He dressed himself. Lars39 Sep 2016 #19
Perhaps he did. BTW... how's the back ? nt clarice Sep 2016 #22
Recovered from that! Lars39 Sep 2016 #24
Wow... that sucks !!!! It will all turn for the better.. I promise. nt clarice Sep 2016 #25
Oh, it will, eventually. :-) Lars39 Sep 2016 #28
Because a three year old probably saw it and liked it. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #92
exactly. KMOD Sep 2016 #109
Because young kids who haven't had gender stereotypes drilled into nadine_mn Sep 2016 #112
I Assume It Is What The Child Wanted colsohlibgal Sep 2016 #18
If Trump can wear Bobby pins, why not a boy in a tutu? WestCoastLib Sep 2016 #20
That is a good point! Initech Sep 2016 #49
my granddaughter likes overalls mainer Sep 2016 #23
agreed beergood Sep 2016 #34
Go mom! MrScorpio Sep 2016 #31
That looks like an outfit my granddaughter might wear -- and get mistaken for a boy. pnwmom Sep 2016 #36
Boys in dresses... AlbertCat Sep 2016 #53
It is always interesting to see changes in social norms. Egnever Sep 2016 #135
My father was born in 1910 marybourg Sep 2016 #152
Most of you are over liberalising ThingsGottaChange Sep 2016 #56
We all get bullied for something.. JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #64
No adult should be in his face either way. ThingsGottaChange Sep 2016 #68
Right! Egnever Sep 2016 #104
No. Sorry. I don't accept that. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #139
Again not what the poster is saying Egnever Sep 2016 #148
Peace means different things to different people ciaobaby Sep 2016 #66
Does no one get this? ThingsGottaChange Sep 2016 #69
Oh Crap ciaobaby Sep 2016 #72
Therein lies your problem JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #73
"Do you at least agree the adult is wrong for harassing the toddler?" The2ndWheel Sep 2016 #82
You didn't answer the question JenniferJuniper Sep 2016 #89
The world is either full of shades of gray, or it isn't The2ndWheel Sep 2016 #128
What? That is not what that poster said at all Egnever Sep 2016 #102
If you're getting into a subjective topic of discussion, and expecting to change minds The2ndWheel Sep 2016 #78
in other word, we are to live our lives in fear of what other people, narrow-minded, bigoted, niyad Sep 2016 #84
No but you must face the reality that they are there Egnever Sep 2016 #106
where on earth do you get the idea that I do not know that they are there? believe me, niyad Sep 2016 #131
When you pretend that someone pointing out that there will be push back Egnever Sep 2016 #132
The kid is three fucking years old. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #97
Yep. Most normal adults realize that very small children live in their own fantasy world. prayin4rain Sep 2016 #119
Why does it matter? Oneironaut Sep 2016 #146
I agree with that mom 100%. Initech Sep 2016 #57
Nice quote ! thanks. ciaobaby Sep 2016 #62
Poor little kid. Let him be and wear what he wants. smirkymonkey Sep 2016 #59
At least she's not claiming that wanting to wear a tutu LittleDuckie Sep 2016 #71
hmmm, could she have had him arrested for approaching her son without her permission, niyad Sep 2016 #77
Pepper. Spray. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2016 #88
Exactly. Right in his eyes. Being belittling to a child Divine Discontent Sep 2016 #123
Anyone who gets that upset over some fabric has problems. (nt) betsuni Sep 2016 #114
Binary Gender Nazis suck undergroundpanther Sep 2016 #118
I can't believe anyone here is actually siding w/the shitwit who started yelling at a stranger's kid Warren DeMontague Sep 2016 #121
Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2016 #124
Or, maybe the story is for real. Warren DeMontague Sep 2016 #125
No one is Egnever Sep 2016 #134
This message was self-deleted by its author lumberjack_jeff Sep 2016 #143
+1 La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2016 #151
A big ol' eye roll Divine Discontent Sep 2016 #122
My son chose a Minnie Mouse doll at the store anoNY42 Sep 2016 #126
Good for her! deathrind Sep 2016 #127
Good mom. DLevine Sep 2016 #129
I like this story. Glassunion Sep 2016 #141
Awesome pics Egnever Sep 2016 #149
Yeah, they are great... Glassunion Sep 2016 #150
Thanks for posting these, Glassunion. Hortensis Sep 2016 #153
Do yourself a favor Glassunion Sep 2016 #154
I just did, thanks! There's something extra Hortensis Sep 2016 #156
This message was self-deleted by its author lumberjack_jeff Sep 2016 #142
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