Many of us are not into pissing on graves

[whatthehey]

56. Actually yes

If you can give reasons. Sound inductive argument that's all. I'm not setting up silly fake goalposts I'll move later like many do here. I'm not a hypocrite. I'm not asking for peer-reviewed empirical proof with t-tests and p values, just basic reasons for why. Please do give them. Just don't give me the usual crap people do when superstitions are questioned. If your reaaons are variations on "it's just not right" then no, don't bother. Because that's not a reason. WHY is it "not right"?

The only thing vaguely approaching a plausible excuse generally offered for insincerity in these cases is to not offend family members (as if offending people were a particular evil that should only be a problem after death. Most of my opinions and yours deeply offend tens of millions of conservatives constantly.) Phyllis had no idea I exist, and judging by her statements would have likely wished I didn't. Her close family don't have an idea now. I had a few conversations with a secondary relative a couple of decades ago, who despised her. They are surely not stupid enough to think anyone who so vigorously espoused an extreme stance on (either side of) controversial issues would be universally mourned, so my consistent attitude will not hurt any feelings already not hurt a million times when she was reviled in life. Would I piss on her grave at the service? No, because a) it would be indecent exposure and b) it would be intrusive on something other people arranged for their private benefit. None of those are concerns about a discussion thread on a discussion board.

Other tacks not to bother with though are appeals to how I would feel if it were me (being dead, nothing at all) or my family (none are public figures likely to draw such comment. My mother was unpopular - and no, nothing like me in this case, she would have agreed entirely with you - and being reminded of it afer her death did not bother me in the slightest. in fact one thing the family all commented on after the funeral was it was good to be able to talk openly at family gatherings without sending the old biddy into a mad huff for once.)

But again if you really can explain real detailed reasons why being candidly consistent in personal opinion post mortem is not right, make it convincing and I will surely stop.