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10. Pull him aside when he is sober...

Reply to ghostsinthemachine (Original post)

Sun Oct 9, 2016, 12:31 PM

Oct 2016

Let him know if he uses racist terms, stereotypes and/or expresses racist ideas in your presence you will no longer interact with him. I would also let him know that if you choose to take your business elsewhere you will, out of respect for his parents, tell them the reason you are leaving. Same for any friends/acquaintances who question why you are no longer going to his coffee shop.

Always stand up to racism!

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Help me DU! Racism in my small CA town [View all] ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 OP

What did Tony say when you discussed it with him? jberryhill Oct 2016 #1

He's kind of an asshole really ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #6

I would talk to Tony first, see what happens. If he's a butt head about it, likely time to move on. RKP5637 Oct 2016 #2

Did you tell Tony not to use that word in your presence? That's what I say to anyone catbyte Oct 2016 #3

I'd call HIM out on it. cwydro Oct 2016 #4

Tell him he's losing customers XemaSab Oct 2016 #5

You can't put it on Yelp if it didn't happen at the coffee place melman Oct 2016 #7

It sounds like talking to his parents might be your best bet. athena Oct 2016 #8

Be direct and clear. What he does with that information .... kwassa Oct 2016 #9

Pull him aside when he is sober... SaveOurDemocracy Oct 2016 #10

A little white lie. safeinOhio Oct 2016 #11

Just stop patronizing his business. If he asks why, tell him. MineralMan Oct 2016 #12

"I remember the racism your parents endured when they first moved here" struggle4progress Oct 2016 #13

+1. That can work. ColemanMaskell Oct 2016 #31

I tell people off and end my association with them ismnotwasm Oct 2016 #14

How about once this DU thread has run its course, printing out your OP and the PufPuf23 Oct 2016 #15

This hard for a lot of people to accept. Igel Oct 2016 #16

I thought maybe that was it the first couple of times ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #18

Yep. That's pretty racist. Nevernose Oct 2016 #20

I really think it's important to say something. athena Oct 2016 #21

What does that even mean? cwydro Oct 2016 #25

Yeah, completely out of left field ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #29

None of them know he's a racist? Iggo Oct 2016 #17

Even though the bar and the coffee shop adjoin ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #30

racist heaven05 Oct 2016 #19

Yep. Ask Bobby Jindal. Iggo Oct 2016 #22

+1 JustAnotherGen Oct 2016 #26

Monday bump ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #23

"Not Around Me, Man!" ProfessorGAC Oct 2016 #24

Make your own decision JustAnotherGen Oct 2016 #27

no; Do the morally correct thing : approach him directly before voting with your feet ColemanMaskell Oct 2016 #33

Join us in the African American Group JustAnotherGen Oct 2016 #34

Tell his parents? The2ndWheel Oct 2016 #32

My guess? He might have a lot of blk friends who call each other that MuttLikeMe Oct 2016 #35

i would go to StarBucks or peets or any chain over the local bigots JI7 Oct 2016 #36