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ghostsinthemachine

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30. Even though the bar and the coffee shop adjoin

Reply to Iggo (Reply #17)

Mon Oct 10, 2016, 12:15 PM

Oct 2016

The cross over of patrons is small. In my group of geezers, non existent except for me. There are probably more than a few people at both establishments that use the words and share the racist attitude. (The Colin Kaepernick situation brings them out). Them I can avoid, but Tony and the coffee shop, not so much unless I want to end friendships and my morning group.(which keeps me sane).

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Help me DU! Racism in my small CA town [View all] ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 OP

What did Tony say when you discussed it with him? jberryhill Oct 2016 #1

He's kind of an asshole really ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #6

I would talk to Tony first, see what happens. If he's a butt head about it, likely time to move on. RKP5637 Oct 2016 #2

Did you tell Tony not to use that word in your presence? That's what I say to anyone catbyte Oct 2016 #3

I'd call HIM out on it. cwydro Oct 2016 #4

Tell him he's losing customers XemaSab Oct 2016 #5

You can't put it on Yelp if it didn't happen at the coffee place melman Oct 2016 #7

It sounds like talking to his parents might be your best bet. athena Oct 2016 #8

Be direct and clear. What he does with that information .... kwassa Oct 2016 #9

Pull him aside when he is sober... SaveOurDemocracy Oct 2016 #10

A little white lie. safeinOhio Oct 2016 #11

Just stop patronizing his business. If he asks why, tell him. MineralMan Oct 2016 #12

"I remember the racism your parents endured when they first moved here" struggle4progress Oct 2016 #13

+1. That can work. ColemanMaskell Oct 2016 #31

I tell people off and end my association with them ismnotwasm Oct 2016 #14

How about once this DU thread has run its course, printing out your OP and the PufPuf23 Oct 2016 #15

This hard for a lot of people to accept. Igel Oct 2016 #16

I thought maybe that was it the first couple of times ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #18

Yep. That's pretty racist. Nevernose Oct 2016 #20

I really think it's important to say something. athena Oct 2016 #21

What does that even mean? cwydro Oct 2016 #25

Yeah, completely out of left field ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #29

None of them know he's a racist? Iggo Oct 2016 #17

Even though the bar and the coffee shop adjoin ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #30

racist heaven05 Oct 2016 #19

Yep. Ask Bobby Jindal. Iggo Oct 2016 #22

+1 JustAnotherGen Oct 2016 #26

Monday bump ghostsinthemachine Oct 2016 #23

"Not Around Me, Man!" ProfessorGAC Oct 2016 #24

Make your own decision JustAnotherGen Oct 2016 #27

no; Do the morally correct thing : approach him directly before voting with your feet ColemanMaskell Oct 2016 #33

Join us in the African American Group JustAnotherGen Oct 2016 #34

Tell his parents? The2ndWheel Oct 2016 #32

My guess? He might have a lot of blk friends who call each other that MuttLikeMe Oct 2016 #35

i would go to StarBucks or peets or any chain over the local bigots JI7 Oct 2016 #36