Today, 11/17, I have been "gay married" for two years. [View all]
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Most people simply refer to this day, in regards to my situation, as an anniversary. It is. Two years. What makes mine so different from so many is mine was only made legal in my state two years ago (October 2014), and nationally in June of 2015. Last Wednesday, I was in tears because I didn't know if my, then upcoming, anniversary would be my last legal one. Sure, the love for my husband isn't based on a piece of paper, but that "piece of paper" makes a shit-ton of things possible for us both. There have been tons of discussions about this group or that one, but few have taken a hard look at the challenges the GLBT community is possibly facing with this new administration. Sure, the president elect has said marriage equality (and that is what it should be[/I called) is "settled". Yet, this is the same person who said in the third debate he would appoint a Supreme Court Justice with a "conservative bent" and wants to see Roe v. Wade overturned. Isn't "RvW" also "settled"? Not to mention his VP is a rancid, rabid, homophobic heterosexist POS and the platform for the party was the most homophobic it has ever been. The president-elect has also said he will "undo" all of President Obama's executive orders, a few which specifically protect LGBT people!
This election will have ramifications for many groups, including those of us who are GLBT. "Undoing" our marriages could lead to a host of other issues: will we have to repay tax refunds? will purchases made as a married couple be "null and void" in regards to who owns what? will children revert to having only one "real" parent?
I am thinking about what my mom says, "expect the worst, hope for the best, and you won't be surprised." The "worst" is pretty fucking bad. Will it happen right away? Of course not. However, the possibility is all too real.
Anyway, that is how I am feeling on my second legal anniversary, but I am not going to let it stop from expressing my love for my husband by making his favorite meal, mustard peppercorn rib roast, and leaving cards all over the house. But I cannot ignore the reality a part of my heart is darkened and sad. Still, I will hold him tight and remember, no matter what may come, he is the love of my life and I am richer for having him in it.
ETA: 
to all the "congrats" posts. Turns out my husband and I have "gay anniversary" buddies...DU's own, beaglelover! Spread the love to post #15!
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