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3catwoman3

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58. We have 2 sons, now 24 and 26.

Mon Dec 5, 2016, 11:15 PM

Dec 2016

I was older when we started our family - 38 with the first, and 41 with the second. I had prenatal genetic testing to see if everything had turned out OK. I also wanted to know gender. Not just out of curiosity. I had always envisioned myself as the mother of a daughter, and I knew myself well enough to know that if I were not having one, I would need time to adjust to that.

Sure enough, 2 boys, whom, of course, I would not trade for anything. That said, I had to grieve the loss of my fantasy daughter, and there is still a wistfulness for experiences I will never get to have not being her mother.

With the current raging misogyny that is blazing thru our country and culture, for the first time, I am glad she was not born.

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& each one of these guys came for the women & you didn't care as we were sexually assaulted & denied [View all] Cha Dec 2016 OP

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I do too.. Not giving him a chance. Cha Dec 2016 #32

"pray for the dead. fight like hell for the living!!!!" niyad Dec 2016 #45

53% of White female voters voted for Trump. Yavin4 Dec 2016 #11

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Majority of white women voted for Trump IronLionZion Dec 2016 #27

From your own link: "White women without college degrees chose Trump" whathehell Dec 2016 #29

My people voted for Hillary by at least 79% IronLionZion Dec 2016 #31

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I feel the same way, and I'm actually just as shocked that whathehell Dec 2016 #68

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Direct and straight to the danger of the crisis.. Cha Dec 2016 #59

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Yer damn right. I swear people don't think we matter a bit. Even women sometimes. nolabear Dec 2016 #35

All we can do is fight back Cha Dec 2016 #36

True dat. And teach those girls! nolabear Dec 2016 #37

I know you're not.. Cha Dec 2016 #39

Yes it does. We have to take care of one another. nolabear Dec 2016 #41

Stonger Together never made more sense! Cha Dec 2016 #42

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Mahalo, RedWedge! Cha Dec 2016 #56

White men. Old white men specially Generator Dec 2016 #44

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I am lost for words as to what our country has become liberal N proud Dec 2016 #55

We have 2 sons, now 24 and 26. 3catwoman3 Dec 2016 #58

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We're right there with ya, dembychoice.. Cha Dec 2016 #65