Do spouses of pedophiles 'know'? [View all]

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I am wondering if any DUers who are psychologists, psychiatrists or who have had experience with pedophiles can help. Do spouses of pedophiles know what their partners are up to? I can see how a spouse would not know because pedophiles are so adept at creating two separate facades - the public and the very dark private.

But I wonder whether there are some signs - perhaps in the couple's sex life - that may give some hints. I seem to find very little literature about this and, with the Sandusky case ready for final arguments tomorrow, after Sandusky's wife testified in her husband's favor, this has piqued my interest.

In her testimony, Mrs. Sandusky made some remarks about some of the accusers as 'conniving', 'clingy' and 'demanding.' I thought those comments were a bit off, almost what someone would say about a spouse's ex or former lovers. I thought they were awkward comments. After all these were children - many children are conniving, clingy and demanding.

I cannot imagine not knowing something is up with my husband, especially in intimate moments. I'd guess (perhaps wrongly) that sexual intimacy would be affected in some way.