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anniebelle

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111. Some people just don't know the bonding that takes place.

Wed Dec 21, 2016, 08:50 AM

Dec 2016

When I lost my best friend, my cat, Arlo, who shared his love with me for 12 years, I know people thought they were helping, but sometimes there are no words. I still have six other rescue cats with me, but it's like losing a child, you don't just go out and get another one ~ as some suggest. Arlo was my oldest of the 7 rescues living with me and we all mourned for him for weeks and after 9 full months, I feel as lonely as the day he left my side. Yes, I remember all the wonderful years we shared, but that does nothing to dull the pain of knowing I'll never have his sweet kisses and comfort ~ EVER again.

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R.I.P. L.C. baby kitty. I will miss you 8-( [View all] Garion_55 Dec 2016 OP

I know what you're going through malaise Dec 2016 #1

Understand what that's like drh Dec 2016 #3

... Liberal_in_LA Dec 2016 #2

Don't mourn the passing gladium et scutum Dec 2016 #4

Yeah, easy to say that RegexReader Dec 2016 #104

Some people just don't know the bonding that takes place. anniebelle Dec 2016 #111

I'm so sorry crazycatlady Dec 2016 #5

17 years bdamomma Dec 2016 #6

I'm so sorry.... mike_c Dec 2016 #7

Hug shenmue Dec 2016 #8

She knows MFM008 Dec 2016 #9

It sounds like it is time Sanity Claws Dec 2016 #10

Horrible end to a horrible year. So sorry. haele Dec 2016 #11

So sorry... lame54 Dec 2016 #12

Pets are almost more difficult than people HassleCat Dec 2016 #13

Garion, I wish I had comforting words for you but there are no words when you lose a loved one or Alekzander Dec 2016 #14

I'm so sorry. In_The_Wind Dec 2016 #15

Being there for her when she goes is everything to her. ehrnst Dec 2016 #16

Be Strong tparrett62 Dec 2016 #17

I second this. marybourg Dec 2016 #33

We've adopted old shelter dogs, but it's not easy. hunter Dec 2016 #102

I'm so sorry, Garion. We were there with our little Hortensis Dec 2016 #18

So sorry jpak Dec 2016 #19

So sad... Calista241 Dec 2016 #20

I am sorry for your loss Angry Dragon Dec 2016 #21

I'm so sorry, sending you & her positive thoughts.. Raine Dec 2016 #22

Even when it's right, it's still agonizing. 3catwoman3 Dec 2016 #23

So sorry for you riverbendviewgal Dec 2016 #24

What a terrible year for you :( Kittycow Dec 2016 #25

HRH made it to her twenty first birthday Warpy Dec 2016 #26

... 2naSalit Dec 2016 #27

We are sitting with you Equinox Moon Dec 2016 #28

(((((hugs)))))) alittlelark Dec 2016 #29

My heart goes out to you. MontanaMama Dec 2016 #30

I am so sorry Liberalynn Dec 2016 #31

Hugs! tosh Dec 2016 #32

So sorry to hear that... you have my sincere sympathies. InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2016 #34

The cross-species bond is strong and can never be broken... VOX Dec 2016 #35

I'm so sorry - KT2000 Dec 2016 #36

So sorry you're about to lose your kitty. QED Dec 2016 #37

so very sorry for your loss as well. May Lady Bast give you peace. niyad Dec 2016 #80

Very sorry, Garron! Been there. Different Drummer Dec 2016 #38

What the vet said when I put my 20+ year ol kitty down... RiverStone Dec 2016 #39

How gently and eloquently stated... 3catwoman3 Dec 2016 #74

I am so sorry. DawgHouse Dec 2016 #40

sorry to hear that, catsudon Dec 2016 #41

welcome to du niyad Dec 2016 #81

Garion, deepest sympathy canetoad Dec 2016 #42

I've been through that. My sympathies n/t shadowrider Dec 2016 #43

That pain of loss is the reflection of the depth of love, it is all one, as is your heart bound with JudyM Dec 2016 #44

So sorry. I still miss the four-legged companions I have lost, and cherish the one I still have. FuzzyRabbit Dec 2016 #45

So sorry. TrishaJ Dec 2016 #46

I'm so sorry. CrispyQ Dec 2016 #47

I'm so sorry. emmadoggy Dec 2016 #48

.... spanone Dec 2016 #49

I'm so sorry. CousinIT Dec 2016 #50

I'm sorry :( bravenak Dec 2016 #51

I definitely feel you on this Generic Brad Dec 2016 #52

Something you might try for your cat Cordy Dec 2016 #53

I'm so sorry oldtime dfl_er Dec 2016 #54

I'm so sorry. TexasMommaWithAHat Dec 2016 #55

i'm so sorry to hear that shireen Dec 2016 #56

I know how you feel thegoose Dec 2016 #57

Very sorry to hear - they mean so much to us. bullwinkle428 Dec 2016 #58

i lost my TWELVE year old male before last xmas, i NEED SPARES. 2 babies after xmas. pansypoo53219 Dec 2016 #59

I have had that "last night" with a fyrbaby pnwest Dec 2016 #60

I'm so very sorry. onecaliberal Dec 2016 #61

So sad. It's awful going through that. we can do it Dec 2016 #62

I'm so sorry. beveeheart Dec 2016 #63

If I could be a cat, I'd like to be your cat. raven mad Dec 2016 #64

No dramatic changes this morning. Garion_55 Dec 2016 #65

Blessings to you both Equinox Moon Dec 2016 #66

I'm so sorry. I've lost cats close to that age, and it's devastating to lose highplainsdem Dec 2016 #67

Sigh.... Are_grits_groceries Dec 2016 #68

Thought of you when I read the OP malaise Dec 2016 #112

thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers Garion_55 Dec 2016 #69

We have an 18 year old kitty. redwitch Dec 2016 #71

it does indeed suck!!! your other babies do know what is happening and will need love and niyad Dec 2016 #83

Always Remember howoldami Dec 2016 #70

I am sorry, Garion. nt raccoon Dec 2016 #72

Condolences DeminPennswoods Dec 2016 #73

So sorry to hear, positive energy. forgotmylogin Dec 2016 #75

I have lost cats that made it to 17, 18 and 19 years old ginnyinWI Dec 2016 #76

... RKP5637 Dec 2016 #77

(((((((((((garion_55))))))))) I am so very sorry for your expected loss. it is heartbreaking niyad Dec 2016 #78

My condolences kudzu22 Dec 2016 #79

So very sorry, Garion_55. Granny M Dec 2016 #82

So sorry. I have been through this many times. It never gets easier. How many cats do you have? tblue37 Dec 2016 #84

Dog's Will, also applies to cats Bayard Dec 2016 #85

tears here. niyad Dec 2016 #88

I feel with you - lost my two cats within 8 months of each other Big_K Dec 2016 #86

Oh, giant hugs to you and your kitty! hamsterjill Dec 2016 #87

its almost time 8-( Garion_55 Dec 2016 #89

so sorry IcyPeas Dec 2016 #90

I say, be thankful heaven05 Dec 2016 #91

So sorry for you and your furbaby right now. anniebelle Dec 2016 #92

I'm so sorry. My oldest is 17,too, and she's getting a bit frail. Vinca Dec 2016 #93

R.I.P. LC my baby cat. Garion_55 Dec 2016 #94

... Liberal_in_LA Dec 2016 #95

(((((((((garion_55)))))))) I know that nothing can ease the pain right now, but know that niyad Dec 2016 #105

Oh gosh I'm sorry. a la izquierda Dec 2016 #96

She fought to stay with you. I'm so sorry for your loss. nt cry baby Dec 2016 #97

I'm so very sorry for your lose. Captain Stern Dec 2016 #98

I'm glad she had someone who loved her. R. P. McMurphy Dec 2016 #99

it's so hard Skittles Dec 2016 #100

Very sorry LyndaG Dec 2016 #101

Hang in there -- rogerashton Dec 2016 #103

Very so sorry for your loss. tenderfoot Dec 2016 #106

Oh I am so sorry bdamomma Dec 2016 #107

So sorry for your loss. Hassin Bin Sober Dec 2016 #108

I'm so sorry, so painful to lose to a furkid.. Raine Dec 2016 #109

I'm so sorry anniebelle Dec 2016 #110

Mind sharing a pic of your baby? crazycatlady Dec 2016 #113

here she is at the end Garion_55 Dec 2016 #114

I'm so sorry for your loss. Let it out. NCTraveler Dec 2016 #115