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Warpy

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33. The problem isn't the parents as much as the larger society

Tue Dec 27, 2016, 09:54 PM

Dec 2016

reinforcing the fiction that they "rescued" these kids from an inferior black ghetto childhood to the oh-so-superior white suburban one. While that might actually be the case, holding one culture over another as superior is damaging as hell to kids who are the "other."

Transracial adoption in a larger culture as deeply racist as we are only works while the kids are very little. Once they go to school and start fielding questions about why they don't look like their parents, why kids who look like them think they act and talk funny, and worse, the confusion and resentment about being "other" starts to have an effect, and it's not a good one.

The only way I can see it working is if the extended birth family of aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins , and everyone else keeps contact, a lot of contact.

I have no doubt that the parents in question had the best intentions in the world and were the best parents they knew how to be. I just know that while families of all colors of the human rainbow should be common, we're not there yet and there is a long way to go.

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2 black kids adopted by white Republicans 40 years ago [View all] jodymarie aimee Dec 2016 OP

+ a brazillion--and K&R for visibility. Especially THIS: tblue37 Dec 2016 #1

Yeah, that's gotta be the take away quote of the year right there. Ligyron Dec 2016 #10

You may want to add the link (below) to correctly credit the author etherealtruth Dec 2016 #2

+1 pnwmom Dec 2016 #8

Thank you mountain grammy Dec 2016 #17

That "accustomed to Privilege" quote has been a driving force in politics for years. LonePirate Dec 2016 #3

Interesting but where did you find it? Nt lostnfound Dec 2016 #4

Thanks for this malaise Dec 2016 #5

It's like the "pedestal" soft misogyny that the GOP loves ehrnst Dec 2016 #6

When youre accustomed to Privilege, Equality Feels like Oppression". progressoid Dec 2016 #7

Profoundly stated! mdbl Dec 2016 #23

I've pointed out quite often that white males have taken the biggest hit Warpy Dec 2016 #9

I hope we don't go down the road of throwing women and POC ehrnst Dec 2016 #11

It's like a falling tide lowers all boats -- but those that once floated highest notice it most. eppur_se_muova Dec 2016 #12

There are more people than we have jobs TexasMommaWithAHat Dec 2016 #16

I wonder if it's "human nature" or the way sociopaths normally behave. Calculated lying, Cal33 Dec 2016 #26

As long as we continue to welcome more immigrants TexasMommaWithAHat Dec 2016 #15

UM, Texas Mom, most immigrants have jobs whites would not stoop to do. Nitram Dec 2016 #22

There are plenty of jobs that "whites" did not that long ago TexasMommaWithAHat Dec 2016 #25

Well I don't see white people at the butt crack of dawn ismnotwasm Dec 2016 #30

What about picking crops for 12 hours in the hot sun for less than minimum wage? Nitram Dec 2016 #34

I know that migrant workers TexasMommaWithAHat Dec 2016 #38

Bullshit. Democrats want to accept hard-working immigrants the way America aways has Nitram Dec 2016 #50

While the first few quotas were racist, affecting Chinese mostly Warpy Dec 2016 #32

Immigration is pretty low Bradical79 Dec 2016 #41

This is a brilliant piece. Thank you for posting it here. japple Dec 2016 #13

you can not vote and support ,,, Cryptoad Dec 2016 #14

This really got to me.. mountain grammy Dec 2016 #18

i don't know about this, these people adopted two sisters, frankieallen Dec 2016 #19

frank, I'm not sure what you don't get. Nitram Dec 2016 #21

I guess I'm a bit defensive when it comes to adoptive parents. I have a couple friends, brother and frankieallen Dec 2016 #31

Get a grip, frank. There's no hate here. Nitram Dec 2016 #35

That doesn't make them racist, just uninformed. frankieallen Dec 2016 #39

Sorry, Frank. Uninformed and racist are not mutually exclusive. Nitram Dec 2016 #51

The problem isn't the parents as much as the larger society Warpy Dec 2016 #33

I agree .As an adoptive parent who knows TexasMommaWithAHat Dec 2016 #46

Sometimes it's the little things, like Ilsa Dec 2016 #47

thanks for sharing this jodymarie Nitram Dec 2016 #20

This is the best line I've seen in a long time ... aggiesal Dec 2016 #24

I thought so, too. nt Ilsa Dec 2016 #48

When you're accustomed to privilege SCantiGOP Dec 2016 #27

Income inequality Turbineguy Dec 2016 #28

Brilliant analysis. "When you're accustomed to privilege equality feels like oppression" redstateblues Dec 2016 #29

Like many others I am struck by "When youre accustomed to Privilege, Equality Feels like Oppression stevenleser Dec 2016 #36

I've seen it attributed to Mark Caddo , who's on FB: JHan Dec 2016 #52

K&R Solly Mack Dec 2016 #37

Thx for the OP, I'll be heading over to dk to read the entire article. dae Dec 2016 #40

fascinating article and very informative copperearth Dec 2016 #43

Interesting read. Thanks. Dark n Stormy Knight Dec 2016 #42

This quote on identity politics is perfect Bucky Dec 2016 #44

Excellent article. Demsrule86 Dec 2016 #45

+1, "......When youre accustomed to Privilege, Equality Feels like Oppression"...." uponit7771 Dec 2016 #49