So much JUMBLE. Reduce and simplify the arguments so that the person can address them.
The Gish Gallop (also known as proof by verbosity and the Trump Tirade) is the fallacious debate tactic of drowning your opponent in a flood of individually-weak arguments in order to prevent rebuttal of the whole argument collection without great effort. The Gish Gallop is a belt-fed version of the on the spot fallacy, as it's unreasonable for anyone to have a well-composed answer immediately available to every argument present in the Gallop. The Gish Gallop is named after creationist Duane Gish, who often abused it.
Although it takes a trivial amount of effort on the Galloper's part to make each individual point before skipping on to the next (especially if they cite from a pre-concocted list of Gallop arguments), a refutation of the same Gallop may likely take much longer and require significantly more effort (per the basic principle that it's always easier to make a mess than to clean it back up again).
The tedium inherent in untangling a Gish Gallop typically allows for very little "creative license" or vivid rhetoric (in deliberate contrast to the exciting point-dashing central to the Galloping), which in turn risks boring the audience or readers, further loosening the refuter's grip on the crowd.
This is especially true in that the Galloper need only win a single one out of all his component arguments in order to be able to cast doubt on the entire refutation attempt. For this reason, the refuter must achieve a 100% success ratio (with all the yawn-inducing elaboration that goes with such precision). Thus, Gish Galloping is frequently employed (with particularly devastating results) in timed debates. The same is true for any time- or character-limited debate medium, including Twitter and newspaper editorials.
To answer her other questions -
people really need to learn to stop mistaking "difference of opinion" with "bigotry".
"Difference of Opinion" = I don't like brown couches.
"Bigotry" = I don't like brown people.
"Difference of Opinion" = I don't favor the Gay 90s.
"Homophobia" = I don't favor gay people.
"Difference of Opinion" = This color paint isn't right for the room.
"Sexism" = This woman isn't right for the job.
Really. Not. That. Difficult.
The reason there was no "looting and rioting" after Obama won (I'm . . . pretty sure the instances of "looting and rioting" after Trump won were pretty overblown by the ConservaMedia) is because you didn't FEAR Obama or what he was setting out to accomplish. Not so with Orange Lincoln Rockwell and his Plutocracy Cabinet.