There's A Reason Americans Pass By Homeless People In The Street Without A Second Glance

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57. what choice do we have in the family we are born into?

I think people have a need to fool themselves into thinking 'we' have control of our lives because the reality that there is SO much which is out of our control is just too terrifying.

The fact that a 'luck' or 'fate' determines a huge part of our life is not easy to accept. Watching someone do everything 'right' and not succeeding just isn't acceptable. It undermines the notion that we can be/do/have anything we 'choose'.

We are so stuck in the concept that 'we' are in control, that when bad things happen to us we look for ways to blame ourself for whatever befalls us rather than understanding that so much of living is unpredictable and we cannot avoid suffering and struggling.

It's much more comfortable to look for ways to blame people for the suffering they are experiencing, because it allows us the illusion that WE can avoid their fate. Understanding that there but for the grace of _______ go any one of us is not an easy thing to accept and deal with comfortably.

this is something i've been coming to understand and trying to accept.