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haele

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9. It's regional. In some areas, once they have children, the spouses identify each other as a parent.
Mon Jan 23, 2017, 02:30 PM
Jan 2017

It's also very old fashioned. Ronald Reagan supposedly occasionally called Nancy "Mommy" when he was being "folksy" and inviting the public into his family, but he didn't do it constantly, and certainly would not have done so when asking for her advice or for semi-authoritative information from her in public.
I remember my Great-grandmother from Missouri, born in 1887, still referred to her late spouse as "Father" (as opposed to "your father) when talking about him to around family when we were visiting up through the 1970's and 1980's - but not when there were other visitors. Maybe if Great-Grandfather was still around (he died in the late 1960's), she might have called out "Father" if she was calling him, as some older novels and film show "country folk" doing when talking to each other, or talking about each other when the other is there.

It's rather like spouses calling each other Mr. and Mrs. [Last Name Here] in public.

However, both ways of addressing spouses have pretty much fallen out of general use since WWII. Society has moved passed assuming that spouses were "one unit", that the wife was an extension of the husband.

And it is very odd that Mr. Pence will identify his wife as only the mother of his children, rather than a woman of her own and or even as an adult extension of himself (i,e., calling her "Mrs. Pence...&quot when she is supposed to be in a position of prominence. It belittles her in public to call her "Mother".

Haele

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Pence Calls His Wife 'Mother' [View all] DonViejo Jan 2017 OP
I call him "fucker." It's a twofer. n/t rzemanfl Jan 2017 #1
LOL! 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2017 #26
lol snap! Cha Jan 2017 #56
I am under the impression that Pence is not the sharpest knife in the drawer. The Velveteen Ocelot Jan 2017 #2
really not all that unusual in some places.... dhill926 Jan 2017 #3
Does he always say it twice, as well? Island Blue Jan 2017 #4
A 'Twisted Sister' is he. Jacob Boehme Jan 2017 #18
My dad would call my mother "mama"... cynatnite Jan 2017 #5
I know several folks that do this... Baconator Jan 2017 #6
It's a very old fashioned thing to do. How many kids do they have? woodsprite Jan 2017 #7
Abraham Lincoln often referred to his wife as "Mother", FWIW Retrograde Jan 2017 #17
Yup! There's a hell of a lot more to worry about Pence than what he calls his wife. n/t woodsprite Jan 2017 #19
It is disgusting when men refer to their wives as mother. SamKnause Jan 2017 #8
Oh, please. kstewart33 Jan 2017 #25
we do the same GusBob Jan 2017 #29
Good for you. SamKnause Jan 2017 #30
you choose to focus on the irrelevant and the irrational, you need no instructions how to LanternWaste Jan 2017 #44
You called it disgusting mythology Jan 2017 #49
Yes - there are MUCH more important issues in that article to be concerned about! csziggy Jan 2017 #47
My dad would call my mother "mama"... cynatnite Jan 2017 #36
Your hang-ups are yours. Try not to project them onto others. LanternWaste Jan 2017 #45
It's regional. In some areas, once they have children, the spouses identify each other as a parent. haele Jan 2017 #9
I agree that it's regional and a little old-fashioned cyclonefence Jan 2017 #10
Oh, please. This is a stupid fight to pick. Ms. Toad Jan 2017 #11
Did she reply "father father" to the old goober? SharonClark Jan 2017 #12
To be fair, that's some old-timey shit that used to be common. dionysus Jan 2017 #13
Yup....had a grandfather that used the term Bengus81 Jan 2017 #21
My parents called themselves grammie and grampie.. TO OUR CAT dionysus Jan 2017 #35
Welcome to Bates Motel n/t ProudLib72 Jan 2017 #14
I have heard that used before on women from their husbands. Doreen Jan 2017 #15
Bingo, Doreen. kstewart33 Jan 2017 #41
Might be a generation thing...my Aunt calls her husband 'Daddy' HipChick Jan 2017 #16
This is a typical christofascist thing kimbutgar Jan 2017 #20
Pence is not the only one ElkeH Jan 2017 #22
I just talked to my 78 year old mother. Doreen Jan 2017 #23
Very old-timey. Fred Williard's character on Everybody Loves Raymond did that. Gidney N Cloyd Jan 2017 #24
I call my husband papa a lot because my grandson does nini Jan 2017 #27
so he is literally a MFer Fresh_Start Jan 2017 #28
I have never heard a smart person do this scscholar Jan 2017 #31
if i call she who must be obeyed mom....they would have to send out search teams for my teeth dembotoz Jan 2017 #32
My dad (born in 1918) would sometimes refer to my mom as 'mother'. For example: PearliePoo2 Jan 2017 #33
Both my Dad (born 1919) and my Husband HockeyMom Jan 2017 #59
VERY creepy Skittles Jan 2017 #34
My dad does that melman Jan 2017 #37
Many, many people do this. former9thward Jan 2017 #38
It's a generational thing, (but it always skeeved me out when ... 11 Bravo Jan 2017 #39
I refer to my wife madokie Jan 2017 #40
That's creepy and weird. alarimer Jan 2017 #42
Andy Hardy's dad did this dcbuckeye Jan 2017 #43
... Warren DeMontague Jan 2017 #46
Reagan referred to his wife Nancy as "Mommy" Jersey Devil Jan 2017 #48
He looks like a long lost Bush brother Wabbajack_ Jan 2017 #50
This is... Mike Nelson Jan 2017 #51
So fucking what? BeyondGeography Jan 2017 #52
Color Me Disinterested ProfessorGAC Jan 2017 #53
That is quite common actually, as long as they have children. frankieallen Jan 2017 #54
mr. froggy calls me mommy frogmarch Jan 2017 #55
We do this in our house....but we have very young children. Pence doing it...and saying it twice is cbdo2007 Jan 2017 #57
My parents both did that sometimes. What's the big deal? WillowTree Jan 2017 #58
I know people who do similar things BainsBane Jan 2017 #60
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